Ever feel like you just can't catch a break?

[Deleted member 34328]

Hi @SeekingAfrica I hear you loud and clear! I highly doubt there would be very many here on the forum who can't relate in one way or another. I'm in the same camp as @Lola Nocheprieta .

I'm in a downward spiral right now. It's very hard, emotionally draining and at the moment feels like there's no way out. As has been said, I do have a couple of support people - my therapist being 1 of 2. My boat feels like it's sinking and sinking fast.. however, it FEELS like it's sinking. It's not. I know that in my head, but my emotions, my heart are very argumentative.

I agree that you need to perhaps slow down in your expectations of yourself. You have a strong will to heal. That's huge! You've also shown a strong desire to seek help and reach out. Both fantastic. You're going to make it - but you're right it's a very rough road and often makes you feel freeze over. The only way is to keep on keeping on. Be gentle with yourself. Use the tools available - which your therapist can help to teach you or websites available... even here on the forum, there are threads designed to teach us what we need.

Be encouraged. You're not alone.

 

[Crystal Rose]

I just feel really bad- self acceptance it's really hard. I was doing really good with improving...

I understand re managing anxiety. I take meds as needed but lately I've just been letting it come. It really sucks and often it comes on very unexpectedly and for no reason the last few weeks. I think the DBT handbook is $6 or $7 on Amazon and I found out after buying it full price. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I bet there are checklists online. I like that it walks you through scenarios and helps you brainstorm self soothing techniques.

I take lots of breaks. I sleep so much. I get overwhelmed by lists that I make but sometimes allowing yourself to be okay with checking just one thing off and being really proud of that can be grounding. We are here for you!

 

[SeekingAfrica]

I understand re managing anxiety. I take meds as needed but lately I've just been letting it come....

You guys are awesome. I'm so lost lately, and I am so grateful that this forum exist.

Few weeks ago I was just starting to learn grounding, self-soothing and all that. I had also started journaling and adding in notebook quotes and pics and meditations to help me...I had made a crisis kit to carry with me(pouch with meds, things for different senses and so on).

I was very excited too, but then I hit the really tough spot in therapy, and since then I haven't had the energy to even try finding out more on these subjects. That's why we all have to set those things in place when we feel better. Now, any energy I put on anything feels too much.

I hope soon I'll be a bit better, and when I am, I'll find all checklists and things I can, and add them to my planner and all that. My T says that if I opened that subject(the one that's made me so upset in the past weeks) then it means I'm strong enough to deal with it. But she said if I still have trouble making out words to really say things, then I don't have to push it, and it will come when I'm ready.

I hope she's right. But I do have to learn to get by somehow in the meantime.

 

[Lola Nocheprieta]

..I had made a crisis kit to carry with me(pouch with meds, things for different senses and so on).

@SeekingAfrica, you've reminded me to go back to my own self-care kit, which has essential oils (smell), a crystal (touch), strong mints (taste), and a long list of other things to think about, do, and steps to take. I go back to basics all the time, over and over and over again. Back to basics. It can get you through the rough spots.