Relationship No Real Contact, Excessive Social Media Contact

[Glara]

I find it interesting that when Ed goes MIA I often don't hear from him at all, but he will like and comment on most everything I post on FB.

I deleted him for a while, when he first broke it off, but after months and months he texted and wanted me to look at something he posted so added him back. (For those who don't know, he broke it off but started up again after a week) I had explained at the time I wasn't shutting him out, I just couldn't have him in my feed when he isolates from me but not everyone else. I've since learned I can un-follow him, so I did that. I never look at his profile, ever. It's too confusing..

Anyway, does anyone have any thoughts on why he may do this?

 

[Ronin]

does anyone have any thoughts on why he may do this?

None that'd be accurate, but if it's something you're not comfortable, you have every right to block him everywhere, facebook too?

 

[Gs172003]

It seems to me he's trying in his own way to let you know he's still "there". Why? That's hard to say.

 

[Glara]

No, I don't want to block him.

It just seems unusual that if he needs space that he'd been commenting on everything.

 

[Muted]

Maybe that's the only safe way he feels he can communicate.

 

[nursenurse]

It's safe for him.

 

[Empath16]

I find it interesting that when Ed goes MIA I often don't hear from him at all, but he will like and comm...

I too struggle with trying to understand how my ex(since he dumped me) has isolated from me but is very active on Facebook excessively as well! Why is it that they're able to continue to deal with others but not the one they supposedly love or care for? I'm stumped!

 

[Jensen]

It all sounds very familiar to me my GF sufferer, (currently symptomatic) can be the light and soul of the party with everyone except me.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Social media isn't "real". A like isn't a conversation. It's a lot easier than actually talking to somebody. People get braver behind the screen.

 

[Justmehere]

It probably feels easier and safer to him. It's less one-on-one, less personal, less vulnerable. Less risky.

edited to add:
I so agree with @Sweetpea76 - just look at what online trolls do. Most people would never treat each other or say those things to each other that cranky trolls say... but online, there is a false bravery that happens. "Electronic courage" to say and do things they might otherwise be too scared to do in other formats.

 

[Deleted member 27340]

I haven't left the house in a month and I barely talk to my foster family at all, but I'm not just a little active on facebook, tumblr, skype and other social media, I'm extremely active, and I call friends on Skype a lot. With a screen I have the power to close the tab or end the call whenever I need to. Might be a similar thing for him.

 

[Jensen]

Maybe a bit of both ? Or all three?