Relationship Best guy i ever met-shut me out

[Buttercup]

The whole thing is a facade based on what the veteran wants in life, but accepting quickly they aren't able to cope with it, thus the love followed swiftly by destruction, pattern occurs.

Boy, nail hit right on the head! That's the pattern I have been going through for a year. He really wants it, but can't cope with the emotions and whatnot. The stress. It actually breaks my heart. That's part of the problem too! :wtf:

 

[Serendipity424]

Ok, so he said he is stressed. He was stressed by the barrage of calls and texts.

I'd say that's...

No he did not say he was stressed. I am saying money came up early in the day conversation and that is when he seemed to become distant.

 

[Serendipity424]

This may be hard to hear....

You state you were married and the last 8 years were loveless.

You have...

No I don't need attention and I am not starving for attention. If that was the case I would have already met someone. I have been single for 8 years not loveless. Was my choice and he was not the first guy to pay attention to me, he was the first guy I opened up to. Please do not judge me, you do not know me.

 

[Serendipity424]

Ok, so he said he is stressed. He was stressed by the barrage of calls and texts.

I'd say that's...

Yes I understand I have to relax, this was before I knew or researched any information regarding PTSD. Once I knew what was happening then I could relax and have more compassion and understanding. I just wanted to learn and have hope is that bad?

 

[LuckiLee]

No I don't need attention and I am not starving for attention. If that was the case I would have...

You may want to reread what you have posted from the beginning.
Peace out!!!

 

[Buttercup]

But I think that's what he meant about you overreacting...10 phone calls. So lesson learned.

 

[Serendipity424]

You may want to reread what you have posted from the beginning.
Peace out!!!

I just came hear to understand and research. I wanted to learn and know what was happening.

 

[Serendipity424]

But I think that's what he meant about you overreacting...10 phone calls. So lesson learned.

Yes lesson learned for sure. I am sure every girlfriend, wife, boyfriend or family member has bombarded their loved ones and ones they care about before understanding all of this as well. Same mistake will not happen again, that is if he ever talks to me again :(

 

[Parley]

. About a month ago I met this amazing man, sweet, kind, great dad. I have issues I was dealing with and opened up to him about them..he was very understanding and that is when he let me know he is not perfect either and he has PTSD, shaking hands, amongst other things.

Boy, nail hit right on the head! That's the pattern I have been going through for a year. He really wants it, but can't cope with the emotions and whatnot. The stress. It actually breaks my heart. That's part of the problem too! :wtf:

forgive my confusion. I thought it was a new relationship. My answer may have been different had I know yall have time invested.

 

[Parley]

Oh hell~ differen't poster. see. ugh. so sorry people. I need sleep. I guess if I pay I can fix my ignorance?

 

[Serendipity424]

forgive my confusion. I thought it was a new relationship. My answer may have been different had I know...

You are correct, mine is a new relationship. I was just trying to learn and get support from others that are going through it, have gone through it, and also from a suffer point of view. I was confused and was looking for answers, I was trying to upset anyone. :(

 

[Buttercup]

Oh hell~ differen't poster. see. ugh. so sorry people. I need sleep. I guess if I pay I can fix my igno...

:wacky: :D