This problem will continue until women feel safe coming forward.
I disclosed continuously as a small child, as an eight year old, (my Mother told me not to talk about what happens in the family outside the family) a few times as I grew older, and the big one at 15, it destroyed my life.I lost everything. I don't see it getting any better, things have actually gotten worse. Look at some of the attitudes in this thread.
Even women whose Father's have spent time in jail, convicted by a court for sexually abusing them are still considered as having "false memory syndrome," or some version of <insert character assasination in here>. I would have been better off not disclosing and letting him kill us all.
It wasn't worth it. I warned all my extended family, and they just put more shit on me. Some of them had been sexually abused as well, why did I need to talk about it? Was what got reflected back to me. My great Aunt described me as "dangerous". I was cut out of my family. I am still cut out of the family. No one wants to acknowledge that 1 in 4 girls in Australia are sexually abused before they turn 16, in their own families. Everyone is willing to see it in other people's social networks but never their own. It will never change.
Even with the
Royal Commission into Institutional Responses in to Childhood Sexual Abuse it is still going on in a lot of those organisations.
I know why 85% of rapes are not reported, it is just not worth being treated the way you are treated.
My Father is still doing his Oscar Award winning performances of the hard done by man, who has been so unfairly tainted by these terrible lies and allegations, he got more access to children, after my disclosure, as people tried to show him they still "trusted" him. He has a lot of money. He talks about all these unfair twisted women hating men, who just want to run all men into the ground and see every man as an abuser and a rapist. He is such a hard done by man, who is a really, really, really, really nice guy, (he is really charismatic, very funny, very personable) and has been so completely and unfairly targeted by manipulative women such as my Mother, (granted my Mother is a manipulative and evil person), but he did beat her on a regular basis, horrendous physical violence, and sexually abused most of the children, and not just in my family. All these such nice, nice, decent, hard working, good guys who are such terrible victims of such awful lies and treacherous manipulations. Poor nice men, whose names get dragged through the mud, when they are such nice guys. Guys that would
never hurt a fly!
And what is annoying is that if you ever challenge these narratives you are the bad guy! So I am silent now, speaking up wasn't worth it, I got hit, bashed, thrown across the room, and then socially, emotionally and culturally destroyed.
It is unlikely that anything will happen to this guy, it rarely does, the adversarial legal system is weighted against the victims.
My psychiatrist told me that 4% of allegations of child sexual abuse are found to be false, and wow like all these guys on this forum, and every one of these poor nice guys all of whom are so hard done by and in that 4%. Poor nice guys, those poor nice guys that never get a break, and are so hard done by. /end sarcasm
