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Do you ever feel like people use your ptsd against you?

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I’m having a really bad night/week and I feel so alone.

For the 3rd time this week my PTSD has been thrown in my face.

1st I was made to leave a get together at a neighbors because someone thought I looked like I may break down! It was a miracle I was there in the first place and I would have left if I was struggling. I was actually enjoying myself for once. I feel guilty even saying it but it’s true.

2nd I have short term memory issues so I ask for texts or email so I can go back and reference. Someone close to me lied and used this as a weapon. The text confirmed it. Broke my heart.

3rd I was told people were going to surprise me tonight for my birthday (someone told me so I could prepare and not freak out). I’ve been preparing mentally all day and forced a shower and was looking forward to it but I guess they changed their minds.

I know I’m being so selfish and having a pity party. I just feel alone and sad.
 
(Happy birthday!!!!)

I have had PTSD used against me once by a person who wasn't so well himself. Or herself. This doesn't quite look that way to me, though I am only going off of what you said here.

It does sound like people aren't treating you fairly, though, maybe based off the PTSD but maybe not. And it sounds like you're trying really damn hard, and trying to make everything work, only to have people seem to make it more difficult, whether they mean to or not.

That first thing is really upsetting to me, though. If you were enjoying yourself, then there wasn't a reason for someone to come in and tell you that you should leave. (Did I understand that correctly?) I personally am really impressed that you managed to go out and have fun.

I'm sorry all of this is going on. And I think the second person is pretty rude, regardless of if he was using PTSD against you or not. Sounds to me more like it was gaslighting.

Many hugs to you :hug: Take it easy
 
@littleoc thank you so much!

Yes the 1st thing has bothered me the worst for sure. It was my first event in FOREVER! That is what hurt the most. And it was someone very close to me. I can’t wrap my brain around it.

I really appreciate you responding. You made me feel better.
 
PTSD or not those things would be hurtful, and they’re all things that folk can do to someone who doesn’t have PTSD. You have every right to be angry, hurt and upset because people have been rude, dishonest and disrespectful.

I suppose you at least know how these people are now and can pull yourself out of those relationships (or set very clear boundaries) so they can’t do it again. It sucks when people let you down.
 
Sadly when we go through trials in life, it illuminates who we should and should not have in our life. It highlights the negative qualities in others that have remained hidden. On the other hand, it can confirm which friends are quality friends as well, if they react in positive ways.

It may mean letting go of old friends and finding new ones.
 
Happy Birthday!!!

I know I’m being so selfish and having a pity party. I just feel alone and sad.
This is NOT TRUE. You are not being selfish or having a pity party. You are sad that people you trusted have turned on you and are treating you differently because of something that happened to you. You have ptsd - which means you have changed. Instead of being understanding, they are reacting in the worst possible way. And that is plenty of reason to be sad.

I am very happy that you told us so we can be with you and let you know that you aren't alone. And I agree it's time to move on to better friends....
 
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