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The journey begins ... or continues ... articulating the rollercoaster that is my life

We had another fight about it. My beautiful man finally admitted to me he has ptsd. He never ever had done that before. I apologized for being selfish.

It was a case of being inadvertently responsible for creating epic trigger fodder for each other.

We made up. There is so much love between us. Earlier today I said "I'm worried this is going to break us up and I don't want it too."

I've cried so many tears this week. This situation hits me on numerous, converging emotional flashback and grief trigger points.

And my guy has major emotional flashback and survival danger brain warnings around having his woman pressure him and curb his social life. He admitted to me that "I'm not his exes" though. We are separating out the then, from the now.
 
He said "you're not the only one with ptsd, but I don't go around making a fuss about it". Something like that. He's very frustrated with lots of big stresses going on. He's worried about his mum and his little girl, the storage company, that has his stuff, are being dodgy,, shifty c*nts and it's driving him bonkers.

I'm a bit sick with a chest and throat thing. I just came down with it, on the weekend. I'm so tired.

I told him "I hate making a thing about it! I wish I didn't ever have to even mention it! Let alone ask for consideration because of it!"

My weight loss regime is going well. I'm down to 81kg. Only 16kg to go. Maybe I'll be down to 75kg by the time I leave hospital? I'd like that.

I went up to 75 from 65 in 2012. My son had gotten psychotically ill and then dumped on my doorstep, by his Dad, who didn't even bother to contact me. I got a text from my now-20 year old son that his older (intellectually disabled, as well) brother was at my place. I had to walk home from uni, which is quite a way.

Where I lived was not a good place to nurse a psychotic intellectually disabled, young man, well, I guess nowhere is great for that, coz it's a horrid, horrid situation.

My weight shot up.

It was an awful neighborhood.

While I was there, the house next door, (said to house a pedo) was burnt down, while people were still in it. They got out though.

On the other corner, in a house I knew, with a young woman I knew a little, her partner was a violent thug and I had called the police for her on a couple of occasions when he was nearly killing her and also when I witnessed him not let her leave. He got beaten to death in the house by some other thugs.

There was a home invasion in the house in front, a lovely Indonesian man who was my friend, who was a single dad, with a couple of small children, got threatened, in his own home.
There was a riot that went on for HOURS, I called the police to that one. I didn't go down but could hear it from mine. I rang hours later coz it hasn't settled and the police said "We are trying to contain it."

I got stolen from so many times. Even when I was in the house.

There were more horrible things that went on, but that gives you an idea. I got housed there, from a woman's refuge. Nice.:cautious::hungry::confused::arghh;:notworthy:

It was no wonder I lost contact with my kids, it wasn't as if I had a safe neighborhood for them to live in. In fact, my youngest daughter lived with me quite a bit, but she got beat up by a girl up there, and went back to live at her dad's, after that.. Shitty, shifty culture of low IQ people. I hated it.

Not too different from here, but there were heaps more shitheads up there. I think they are moving over here though, as many as can. The pedo guy has been over here. Yuck. My daughter got stuck with him talking to her once, he really does sound like a pervert.

Here it's mainly demoralized and deluded "superior" weed smokers, over there I think it was mainly "ice" culture.

I mean, don't get me wrong, all weed smokers aren't immature, hedonistic, escapist, bullshit artists, but they are thick on the ground, here.

I've had to deal with those type of people all my life. They can escape in a haze of getting stoned and never truly face up to themselves, while they opt out and light up. I'm not talking about people who smoke a doob on the weekend or whatever, I'm talking chronic everyday, all day marihuana addicts. Just about everyone in this town.is in that camp.

Although we do have people like me, mums who escaped domestic violence and who got stuck here and business people who are capitalizing on the booming tourism industry in my town.

Then we have the young people, mixed bag, some thugs and hustlers among them, some great kids who will get the f*ck out of here as soon as they can, and retirees who can afford the ever-hiked-up real estate prices or old hippies who've been here since the 70's.

But drugs, especially weed, is the central pillar, of this community.

My ex is such a weed fanatic, I am forever tainted by his atrocious abuse and narcy treatment of me, and my mum was a "free-loving footloose hippy" so yeah, I'm kinda jaded by the whole scene.

Drug abuse culture gets me down.
 
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Dear @mumstheword !!!
I have been reading a lot in your diary today, and now its 3 AM in Germany, haha. But I have read enough to know what a resilient, empathetic, vibrant, creative, beautiful, caring, colorful, enriching and patient person you are. First of all, thank you for fighting for your life and the lives of your loved ones. Thank you for emitting love.
Second of all: I can understand so much of your pain. The abandonment, the self-doubt and the minimizing of your trauma. I am so sorry you had to survive all of this. Its a miracle how you managed to stay soft and forgiving and warm through all of this instead of becoming a bitter and mean person, which would have been very understandable.
My guy has ptsd too, I'm pretty sure of it, and I know how damn difficult it is to stay out of the trigger-zones. Its exhausting, to say the least. But I am also pretty sure that in some people, ptsd unleashes a new ability to love very very deeply. This is maybe why you two are so close. I at least think that this is the case with me and my boyfriend. We kind of grow through our fights and bond over them.
You are an amazing soul who deserves all the love and support in the world. It is truly heartbreaking that your child part feels so left alone and yearns for mother love. My mother never got any love from her mother or father too. She says she could heal a little part in her by loving me and being loved by me. Maybe you can relate to that.
I don't think I am able to write much more at this hour, but just know that I am here and that I fully support you. I wish you the very best. I will be reading along.
Many hugs to you!
 
Dear @mumstheword !!!
I have been reading a lot in your diary today, and now its 3 AM i...
What an absolute sweet heart message! Thank you so much @Juso !
It's good to "know" souls who understand the emotional territory one's journeyed through and survived!
I see so much beauty, strength, love and resilience coming through your words.
I truly and deeply appreciate you and thank you for journeying with me, through my diary!
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:@Juso
 
So I kinda broke today. Well I didn't break, I drugged myself, over-the-top drugged myself.

I had already had my nervous system blasted by a dicky smoke alarm going off, twice, and then, I was out the front with my guy and neighbor comes over to talk to him.
I'm out of controlled triggered by that now, I wasn't like that even a couple of weeks ago and now I am. It's hopeless, worthless part giving me grief.
I felt so ashamed. My guy tried to comfort me, hugging me and being attentive but the feelings of shame, grief, worthlessness, powerlessness and inconsequentialness were so severe.

I took one of the strong valium, instead of break down completely, a tamazapam. So I got so sleepy I had to have a nap. I feel zombie now, I want to run away, I don't want to face this stuff. I can't put this on my guy. This is not rational!

I don't think I will be able to be ok with this neighbor anymore and she's his friend! I think she treats him like a Dad figure. I don't think she will stop leaning on him, because he's become a main emotional support for her. It makes me feel so worthless and depressed! I looked up anti anxiety drugs coz so far, I've managed to avoid taking them but I don't know what to do. This ridiculous response is way out of context and over the top and I feel so ashamed and depressed for being like this.

My PTSD is becoming totally unmanageable because of a neighbor issue again! And this was the nice neighbor!
 
My guy keeps addressing my worthlessness.and caring about me and I keep being surprised that he doesn't abandon me.
I keep being surprised that he actually does care about me.
My "worthless" part must be getting the message!
It's just that I've been looked after so little, prioritized so little, betrayed and forsaken so much, I think my child part, this "hopeless" part, thinks others will always be prioritized over me and I'll be left to fend for my self again, or be preyed on by predators.
 
It's wrapped up in shame, so much shame. She is frightened, she is scared to hope. She is scared that if she hopes for more, a life of her choosing, she will just be devastated all over again.. Success is for other people. Struggle and shame is her lot, her due.
It's sad. I'm so scared to hope, even though parts of me do. Hopeless part is strong and enduring. She s survived by being able to roll with the punches. Take the abuse. Survive the abandonment and betrayal. Accept the slander and the condemnation. Endure the terrible losses and squalor and poverty and isolation and and .....It's terribly sad, but there have been so many devastating realities to endure.. Why me? I don't know, it's just how things have worked out.

Now I have this amazing kind, attractive, intelligent, wounded friend who gets me and treasures me, hopeless part thinks it's too good to be true, even though there are still crappy parts about his problems too.
 
I think my child part, this "hopeless" part, thinks others will always be prioritized over me and I'll be left to fend for my self again, or be preyed on by predators.
Your poor little little. She has had to survive so much - no wonder she is afraid. She deserves to be cuddled and loved and taken care of -- just like you do. She needs to experience love and caring so she can start believing in people. I think the only way she will learn he cares is him showing her over and over that he is there for her And I would guess it would take a while - she's had years and years of abuse and rejection. But each time he shows her he cares he breaks down that wall just a bit more. Baby steps -- you are getting her there a little at a time.
 

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