frogthroat
MyPTSD Pro
This is really a question I suppose for people that grew up in extremely abusive households and didn't really learn any life skills from their parents. This includes how to handle anything in a healthy emotional way.
I grew up in a house where my little brother and I experienced incest by our mother, we lived in filth in an unfinished house, and my dad was a violent drunk. There was violent sexual and physical abuse outside of the home that my mom knew about and didn't stop.
How long did it take for you to stop carrying your parents around like a ball and chain? How long did it take for you to unlearn years of negative thinking that you were programmed to believe was true? How long did it take for new, more positive ways of coping to stick in your brain so that you could actually follow through with continuing to handle things appropriately.
For example, I don't handle stress well. If something happens that's out of the ordinary level of stress I throw a huge shit fit. I know the stress cup explanation explained this part well BUT I get suicidal, I can't control my emotions, and generally I make a giant ass out of myself. It embarrasses me and then I feel like a bad kid all over again. I know I learned to just be depressed as a kid. I also learned to just give up and be totally helpless. I want to unlearn this so bad and just boot it right out of my head. I've already done so much but I'm open to any suggestions and your own personal experiences on how handle to emotional regulation more efficiently without negative self talk.
I grew up in a house where my little brother and I experienced incest by our mother, we lived in filth in an unfinished house, and my dad was a violent drunk. There was violent sexual and physical abuse outside of the home that my mom knew about and didn't stop.
How long did it take for you to stop carrying your parents around like a ball and chain? How long did it take for you to unlearn years of negative thinking that you were programmed to believe was true? How long did it take for new, more positive ways of coping to stick in your brain so that you could actually follow through with continuing to handle things appropriately.
For example, I don't handle stress well. If something happens that's out of the ordinary level of stress I throw a huge shit fit. I know the stress cup explanation explained this part well BUT I get suicidal, I can't control my emotions, and generally I make a giant ass out of myself. It embarrasses me and then I feel like a bad kid all over again. I know I learned to just be depressed as a kid. I also learned to just give up and be totally helpless. I want to unlearn this so bad and just boot it right out of my head. I've already done so much but I'm open to any suggestions and your own personal experiences on how handle to emotional regulation more efficiently without negative self talk.
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