Relationship Trying to Stay Sane Alone

[Pippi427]

God the more I think about it the more irate I'm getting. He KNOWS people who have killed themselves and been locked up in psychiatric hospitals for less. He RAN A DAMN VA CLINIC in Texas. and he's "Sorry I got so low" Why yes...I value love above all else in life and you cheated me. You ended my vision of my world, asshole. Time to make a new one without you in it.

 

[PreciousChild]

God the more I think about it the more irate I'm getting. He KNOWS people who have killed themselves and been locked up in psychiatric hospitals for less. He RAN A DAMN VA CLINIC in Texas. and he's "Sorry I got so low" Why yes...I value love above all else in life and you cheated me. You ended my vision of my world, asshole. Time to make a new one without you in it.

@Pippi427 have you been in many relationships before? I've had a few experiences with "players" and learned A LOT about myself and them. I think it's very useful to learn from these experiences and it made me stronger. The lesson I learned most was that these men come from the point of weakness, not strength. They try to control the situation because they themselves feel totally helpless inside.

But that will come in time. We can go back to hating the world for now...

 

[Pippi427]

This is my fourth relationship. Most of my relationships have been long term ones. What did you mean that would come in time?

 

[Pippi427]

And at long last we have resolution. He apologized and admitted he has a real problem. Damage is done, but this incident is now resolved.

 

[PreciousChild]

That's great that you have closure, @Pippi427 . It may still take time to process, but at least he apologized.

As for what I meant, I had drank a glass of wine before writing that, so my thoughts were a little disjointed. Haha. Just time to heal, I guess.

 

[Pippi427]

The other woman confronted him yesterday. He got caught completely. Right after that he tried to ask her out to a concert with his kids. (He's never met her in person before.) He's sick. I feel so sorry for him. He's still out there trolling the dating site. He really needs help.

 

[EveHarrington]

Why would you subject your kids to a woman you just met?!?! Poor kids!

 

[LuckiLee]

its okay to date multiple people as long as everyone is onboard...

 

[EveHarrington]

So he essentially ghosted you and then started talking to another woman?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Sounds more like he was seeing both of them at the same time without telling either of them.

 

[Friday]

Cad.

 

[Pippi427]

Ya it was what @Sweetpea76 said. I spent some more time with the "other girl" and we put a timeline together. He was lying to both of us all along. He either never had PTSD and was using it to get us to care for him, or he's using his sex addiction to self medicate. Either way I feel used, duped, stupid, mad, frustrated. I'm scared to ever trust anyone again. I was so good to him.

Today is a hard day because he started talking to me again. Just to tell me he didn't want the drama in his life. Nice. You do all this to me and tell me you don't want drama. I want to throw heavy things at him.