Victim-Perpetrator Dynamic - Need advice

[Rani G2]

He/she the abuser has a look in the face, a voice, denounces, looks me in the eye with a mixture of disgust and hate. Is he looking at himself? Am I an extended version of himself? Am I a weak piece of Body and limbs to play with? Who do you think you are? You child, your origins are sinful... what happens to you is also your fault.

So what happens when this feeling/thoughts are being felt ? A fragile part comes into the surface, she wants to befriend the enemy, she wants to be safe.
Daria though screams and yells „ Fight the her/him, oppress them, show your power“ if not you will die!
It fluctuates between needing to feel secure for the Emotional fragile parts and Controlling parts.
She wants to have power over them, change the narrative, this time she controls, she is in power....

I stood in front of him, my mother said, I hit him, so I did fight. I want to be strong as hell, the most intelligent, I want all of you to see my power, me I am a fighter, I don’t do weakness, I will destroy you..

No, but, don’t someone says, I want you to like me, I will do whatever you please, because you have true power.

Cut me into pieces, I am not that, I am not this.. I want to be everything..

 

[Rani G2]

Perpetrator doesnt value me

I value myself

I sense myself, I exist, I care

This totalitarian system is to be
taken apart

A converaation i have in mind very often

"We should win, we should not submit".. and? We if we do need to, we must make the perpetrator like us"... then we are safe

Dont show empathy, it will destroy you, that woman dislikes you, dislike her even more, show her your power! She will never reach my level.

No says little one: Its scary! I cant I cannot


Selves only exist in relation to other selves
-George Herbert Mead

 

[Freida]

"We should win, we should not submit".. and? We if we do need to, we must make the perpetrator like us"... then we are safe

That you had to learn this makes me so sad :hug:

 

[Rani G2]

That you had to learn this makes me so sad

@Freida... thanks for being compassionate