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She responded and said some thing about conference (The conference advertisement came quickly , so I had to cancel quickly .) and see you on Thursday.
Sounds like she thought she DID reach out to you to cancel.
Personally… I’m direct enough I’d just ask where she sent the cancellation notice to, because I didn’t get it, so I need to check my settings on that device, or update my contact info with her.
((Either my spam folder, or the ability of people without passwords to mark notices as read from my Home Screen, etc., rather than turning off the annoying beep/buzz/flashing that has them picking up my device to shut it up.))
Even though it’s just as likely
- I accidentally marked it read myself, half asleep or busy, on accident… it’s still good practice to make sure an update hasn’t screwed with my personal defaults.
- They screwed up on their end and didn’t include me on the Cx list.
That’s easy enough to do by accidentally double clicking on someone’s name, selecting/unselecting, or by fat fingering select on the person above/below me; either way they THINK I’m on the notice list, and don’t realize I’m not.
But? Because I have security concerns, I’m not on most mass-email / mass-text lists, to begin with. So have to be reached out to solo. <<< Most people remember the extra step most of the time. I’d rather that I occasionally get a missed announcement, rather than have my personal info on a blind copy list on someone’s phone. As that’s only “blind” to people who have zero tech skills, and most people goof at least once every few years and CC rather than BCC.
So I’d personally just assume ONE of us made a mistake, equally innocently given past history, and since I can check my end easier than I can check theirs? I’d assume it was me, and ask them where the message was sent to. Which also alerts them that they may have goofed and not included me in the list, or used an old contact method their address book supplied do to one of those stupid updates we all deal with or, or, or.
But whether my fault or theirs? When I have history with a person that shows this to be out of character for them? I don’t assume malice or disregard. Just technical difficulties.
Personally… I’m direct enough I’d just ask where she sent the cancellation notice to, because I didn’t get it, so I need to check my settings on that device, or update my contact info with her.
((Either my spam folder, or the ability of people without passwords to mark notices as read from my Home Screen, etc., rather than turning off the annoying beep/buzz/flashing that has them picking up my device to shut it up.))
Even though it’s just as likely
- I accidentally marked it read myself, half asleep or busy, on accident… it’s still good practice to make sure an update hasn’t screwed with my personal defaults.
- They screwed up on their end and didn’t include me on the Cx list.
That’s easy enough to do by accidentally double clicking on someone’s name, selecting/unselecting, or by fat fingering select on the person above/below me; either way they THINK I’m on the notice list, and don’t realize I’m not.
But? Because I have security concerns, I’m not on most mass-email / mass-text lists, to begin with. So have to be reached out to solo. <<< Most people remember the extra step most of the time. I’d rather that I occasionally get a missed announcement, rather than have my personal info on a blind copy list on someone’s phone. As that’s only “blind” to people who have zero tech skills, and most people goof at least once every few years and CC rather than BCC.
So I’d personally just assume ONE of us made a mistake, equally innocently given past history, and since I can check my end easier than I can check theirs? I’d assume it was me, and ask them where the message was sent to. Which also alerts them that they may have goofed and not included me in the list, or used an old contact method their address book supplied do to one of those stupid updates we all deal with or, or, or.
But whether my fault or theirs? When I have history with a person that shows this to be out of character for them? I don’t assume malice or disregard. Just technical difficulties.
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