Success stories

[Dot Warner]

Is it possible, for someone who was victim of big uninterrupted violence by their parents, during their entire life as underage person, and having experienced a severe form of CPTSD, is it possible to have success (your personal definition of success) in life? Or at least to find a decent job, a decent accomodation (not still with roomates) and to feel finally safe?

 

[SeaLionMan1982]

Is it possible, for someone who was victim of big uninterrupted violence by their parents, during their entire life as underage person, and having experienced a severe form of CPTSD, is it possible to have success (your personal definition of success) in life? Or at least to find a decent job, a decent accomodation (not still with roomates) and to feel finally safe?

Hi Dot I have a job in IT (Desktop Support), rent a one bed one bath apartment, as far as feel safe I’m not there yet and I might not ever get there.

 

[Friday]

Damn straight.

4/5ths of the people I knew in the military had PROFOUND childhood trauma. Who went on to both amazing military & civilian careers. (Coin toss as to whether they themselves had/have broken families, or healthy/happy/thriving families; whilst most after 20+ years? Had/Have both. Broken families whilst young, thriving/happy families once they manage their shit.).

IT WAS SO NORMAL in my experience, that I completely discounted my ex-husband’s childhood trauma, as simply his past, instead of what defined “him”. It did define him, ultimately, as a narcissistic psychopath, but? If it’s any consolation, as much as that made him a terrible human being / husband / father…. he makes middle six figures (that I and the tax man know about, but most probably more), and is both respected/despised in his chosen career. He commands top dollar, as he’s brilliant, but only fools or the ignorant will have anything to do with him. As he’s cruel, petty, & vindictive. But? Also extraordinary good at what he does. So his product is worth every penny, and then some. His association? Or influence? Best avoided.

 

[Dot Warner]

Thank you SeaLeonMan1982 and Friday
I think that you both are doing great

 

[SeaLionMan1982]

Thank you SeaLeonMan1982 and Friday
I think that you both are doing great

Thank you Dot how are things going on the Warner Movie lot?

 

[arfie]

i was born into child prostitution 70 years ago. it is entirely possible i am lost in denial AGAIN, but i believe healing has happened. just believing. proof irrelevant. i love my old lady life, especially the part where i no longer feel like sexual predator bait.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

I had a fairly abusive childhood, my mother beat me with a pipe and I walked into her suicide attempts etc and I was there the night she finally killed herself. I have always set challenges for myself like sailing a 24 foot boat from San Francisco to Mexico and back alone, or long distance unsupported bicycle tours, even going to law school and passing the bar. I think these challenges were a way to prove to myself that I had some value or ability to do things others could not. It didn’t really work. Getting my JD and passing the bar were major achievements for someone who ran away to San Francisco for the Summer of Love at age 12. People who grew up in situations like mine simply did not do such things. In my family there were four kids and I am the only one that got any sort of degree. I was and still am the designated problem.

What I found actually working is that I left every place after three years. Perhaps it was that I felt they would figure me out if I stayed too long. Self employment always worked best for me. I always worked much harder than anyone around me. I think I might have had a learning disability so I had to work harder. Simply stated PTSD makes life much harder. My emotional dysregulation makes the pain render me useless thus working for someone else wouldn’t work long term.

I can’t imagine someone with my manifestations of PTSD being able to work the same 9 to 5 for decades. It is inconceivable to me.

 

[Dot Warner]

Thank you Dot how are things going on the Warner Movie lot?

Ahahah!
Not so well, actually, they don't make me work any more

 

[Dot Warner]

i was born into child prostitution 70 years ago. it is entirely possible i am lost in denial AGAIN, but i believe healing has happened. just believing. proof irrelevant. i love my old lady life, especially the part where i no longer feel like sexual predator bait.

I believe that your healing has happened and I am SO happy for you!
Enjoy your old lady life!!!

I had a fairly abusive childhood, my mother beat me with a pipe and I walked into her suicide attempts etc and I was there the night she finally killed herself. I have always set challenges for myself like sailing a 24 foot boat from San Francisco to Mexico and back alone, or long distance unsupported bicycle tours, even going to law school and passing the bar. I think these challenges were a way to prove to myself that I had some value or ability to do things others could not. It didn’t really work. Getting my JD and passing the bar were major achievements for someone who ran away to San Francisco for the Summer of Love at age 12. People who grew up in situations like mine simply did not do such things. In my family there were four kids and I am the only one that got any sort of degree. I was and still am the designated problem.

What I found actually working is that I left every place after three years. Perhaps it was that I felt they would figure me out if I stayed too long. Self employment always worked best for me. I always worked much harder than anyone around me. I think I might have had a learning disability so I had to work harder. Simply stated PTSD makes life much harder. My emotional dysregulation makes the pain render me useless thus working for someone else wouldn’t work long term.

I can’t imagine someone with my manifestations of PTSD being able to work the same 9 to 5 for decades. It is inconceivable to me.

Sorry that you have to pass through such a traumatic childhood.
But I can see that you could find your way, so happy about that