Really Angry - How To Deal With This?

[quaintpapercut]

I've had to hire a lawyer to deal with my claim for disability. After research and meeting a couple I finally decided on one that I felt comfortable with. They are in the process of gathering all of the pertinent documentation but still have the information submitted to support my claim as well as a report from my psychologist. The report is four pages long and among other information includes that I suffer from poor concentration, recollection and dissociative amnesia.

I sent an email a couple of months back with some follow up questions that I had for my lawyer, following our initial meeting (I had signed the retainer agreement at that point). I never received a response and after a week forwarded the email to the partner of the firm as I had pressing questions concerning the confidentiality of my medical records.

Long story short, my lawyers legal assistant sent an email (with everyone under the sun cc'ed) indicating that she had responded on such and such a date. I thanked her and informed her it must of been directed to my spam. She clarified again and said no, she had personally spoken to me. Back and forth ensues, with my anxiety escalating at the fact that I had absolutely NO recollection of the conversation she said we had. I end up calling her, and she insists that yes she spoke to me personally and has a note on file. I tell her theres no record in my phone and ended up crying on the phone because I was convinced that it was evidence of DID.

Today I checked the hard bill - the one that records all the incoming and outgoing calls. So no matter if I did somehow delete it from my phone it would of still been on the paper bill. No record of her ever calling :mad:. She probably forgot to follow up with me and since I had forwarded the email to the partner, lied to cover her butt. Humiliating me (based on how many peopled were included in the emails) and causing me significant distress.

I know I have to deal with this but right now I just can't believe that someone would do that when they know I'm off dealing with significant mental health issues.

Ugh. People really suck sometimes.

 

[therapybankrupt]

Yes they do! You have it right she was covering her own butt!

 

[quaintpapercut]

I took total responsibility for it as well. Apologizing for the confusion and conflict I may have caused. The legal assistant followed with an email (again with everyone cc'ed) explaining that I had advised her I had issues with my memory.

I'm actually considering a formal complaint. When I spoke to her I was like are you sure? You remember my voice? And she was all yes, yes, yes. :shifty:

 

[therapybankrupt]

If it makes you feel better and does not aggravate the situation in your own head than do it! A formal complaint just to let it go! Is that ok to say because sometimes I hold onto things longer when I act on them?

 

[quaintpapercut]

Of course its okay to say :). If I filed a complaint it would be with the body that regulates the legal profession. I'm going to have to bring it up with the firm directly first and depending on their response will decide what steps to take next.

Thanks for your support!

 

[therapybankrupt]

:hug: Good luck on your quest for justice!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Mabe she has ptsd and dissociated.

I will never understand people. Sorry you are going through this crazymaking situation. I am glad you clarified it for yourself and have proof. Good luck on pursuing this.

 

[safenow]

I had a similar situation a couple of weeks ago. Someone said I'd called them during the middle of the night. I felt awful since I had no memory of it. They insisted they heard my voice, and saw my phone number on the phone. Once I calmed down, I checked my phone, and guess what! No phone call to them until after they called me. I let them know I didn't appreciate them making me think I'd done that. They just chuckled like it was a funny joke. I let his wife know in no uncertain terms it was not funny. When you have Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) or dissociation of any type those type of games are just not acceptable.

 

[piratelady]

When you have MPD

Safenow, what is MPD? Please either edit your post to spell it out or let us know. Not everyone knows what the abbreviations mean. Thank you.

 

[safenow]

Sorry Piratelady. Multiple Personality Disorder = MPD. Now they call it DID, Dissociative Identity Disorder. MPD is a very old diagnoses. I personally had 24 personalities when I was diagnosed back in the early 1960s. I don't see them all often any longer. I have to be under a lot of stress before they pop up. It's mostly the little alternates that cause the problem. They are between 2-6 years old. Those were some traumatic times for me. Then, when adding the trauma from situations as a young woman and adult it gets worse. Most of what I went through in my life is very rare so no one seemed to know what to do to help me. A group of doctor's worked with me when I was a young child and helped me learn how to socialize as a human, which was not easy. The animals who raised me never expected that much out of me but humans always did.

I don't mean to steal anyone's thread. Sorry to the original person.
safenow

 

[quaintpapercut]

Mabe she has ptsd and dissociated.

That made me laugh!

Once I calmed down, I checked my phone, and guess what! No phone call to them until after they called me.

Sweet vindication! I know its very hurtful and people don't realize how deeply troubling dealing with dissociation or multiple personality disorder can be.

In my case it was dealt with and I'm satisified. But just barely :cautious:. I wanted an explanation as to why she did this - was it in fact a mistake or was she screwing with me after reading my medical files? I know its an HR issue though and I made my point. She was removed from my file and the owner of the firm personally apologized for any distress it may have caused me.

I don't mean to steal anyone's thread. Sorry to the original person.

No apologies necessary :).

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am glad it made you laugh, it was supposed to. I am happy that you sorted it out and will not be dealing with her anymore, and how nice to get an apology. Kudos.