No you don't sound confrontational at all. I hope I don't either.
It's particularly games or anything that's clearly intended to be entertainment.
Early in healing I was trying to find information on a particular type of trauma which isn't much discussed. When I googled it I got a lot of results for video games about it. I got the impression these games weren't the kind that get sold on the high street but there were plenty of them and from what I read before realising this wasn't the right search to do, it was upsetting to know they were even out there.
I think there can be quite a high level of violence in some mainstream games. I doubt people notice it particularly, they're so used to a certain amount. I've also seen things in manga and comics that I think ought to be more shocking to people given what it actually is, but they're routinely read by teenagers or even younger. I don't mean cartoon violence like Tom & Jerry, but the graphic novel type.
I think I misunderstood you about acting out a different ending - sorry. I think that makes sense. I would still feel cautious about why something is in a game, how, and what alternative outcomes there are. But maybe there's no concern in this particular example, I don't know.
I have to say I think a threat of rape can be questionable, even if it doesn't happen in the end. I don't even think it has to be as straightforward as that for it to appeal to people for dubious reasons. My limited (for a reason) exposure to Tomb Raider gives me the impression that there are enough scenes of sexy female struggling, under attack, captive, hands tied etc to make me doubt that the escape/winning part is the only point for many people. I can't reconcile that as OK, but that's only my personal reaction.
I don't watch Eastenders but I think drama like that is unlikely to be glamourising things, and hopefully unlikely to be graphic. I think rape and violence in drama, books etc can be OK if the story/purpose justifies it, but it depends on the context and I don't think detail is needed. If the writing's good then alluding to it is enough. If the writing isn't good then it would be better they didn't try to tackle it anyway.