That's It I Guess..

[RussH]

I think that even if you don't have PTSD; you obviously have some issues otherwise you would have never ended up here on the fourm. I also think there are people here that can still help you cope with the issues you are dealing with, and that is a good thing, so stick around.

 

[mamachick]

I blow up now. I went for years and never blew up and still had ptsd. Now there are certain triggers and only when combined with a stress cup overfull, no medication, etc. make for a blow up, then it is my head blowing up and verbal not physical.

A competent therapist would not likely make the diagnosis of ptsd after 2 visits anyway. They may defer the diagnosis or R/O something. Often the diagnosis is depression, anxiety , depression, etc until they know more. I would get a second opinion.

 

[wicked child]

Well, You have to list things to tick, and I am scoring very low on anxiety. She asked where I was on a scale of 0-10 for how I felt. I said 5. I feel OK I supose today. I think that is what she was getting at. But I agree, I shall stay here, and also the other forum that I have found.

Going back and demanding stuff, isn't really an option. It was a free service. It seems that the only way to get help is to pay, which is not an option really.

 

[quaintpapercut]

Hi Wicked Child - sorry the therapist was so dismissive. I was raised by a narcissistic mother and the damage she inflicted runs deep. This article was a real eyeopener for me. I hope it helps you to :http://parrishmiller.com/narcissists.html

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Her questioning was flawed. What an idiot.

My psychiatrist asks the scale question, but he also asks for a range of my moods over the last few months. He's no idiot. He knows that mood can fluctuate. How fair is it to base an opinion of someone solely on how they present to you on any given day? You could be in the depths of despair and call for an appointment. By coincidence you happen to be having a good day when the appointment day arrives and so you suddenly don't deserve help? What rubbish.

 

[wicked child]

Hi guaint -thanks but I have already read that. It's really good. Especially this bit:


"The narcissist also uses favoritism and gossip to poison her childrens' relationships. The scapegoat sees the mother as a creature of caprice and cruelty. As is typical of the privileged, the other children don't see her unfairness and they excuse her abuses. Indeed, they are often recruited by the narcissist to adopt her contemptuous and entitled attitude towards the scapegoat and with her tacit or explicit permission, will inflict further abuse. The scapegoat predictably responds with fury and equal contempt. After her children move on with adult lives, the narcissist makes sure to keep each apprised of the doings of the others, passing on the most discreditable and juicy gossip (as always, disguised as "concern") about the other children, again, in a way that engenders contempt rather than compassion. "

 

[wicked child]

Her questioning was flawed.

I agree.

 

[mamachick]

The best way to diagnose is to see weekly. Each week when the client comes in and reports about thngs and they are explored, the symptoms will be seen and observed in the office setting. As well as work or home situations and how they are dealt with in self report. Not a fan on canned test.

 

[radicalgratitude]

Has your therapist given you the TAS (Toronto Alexithymia Scale)? I don't think its wise for her to trust your personal observations of your feelings without doing this along with her personal observations. With all due respect, you are new to therapy and it is hard to know how well you can evaluate your own emotions. Please get a second opinion. Truthfully, only psychiatrists can diagnose.

 

[mamachick]

I did look up the scapegoat child and read some interesting information. I was not the scapegoat to parents but was with 4 older siblings. Then articles went on to another article about being hostage to guilt within the family. I could relate..both with my siblings, and with child and husband. It said that resentments build. Mine have built to an explosion. I dont like feeling this way, but feel like any contact with them will start their manipulating process the ends in me feeling resentment.

They will take more than I have to give, at the cost of my health. Working through this is very hard. I understand better what my T is talking about when she says I am a hostage in my home.

 

[DMerish]

Has your therapist given you the TAS (Toronto Alexithymia Scale)?

I think Wicked Child is in Britain. is the Toronto Scale used there?

 

[radicalgratitude]

I think Toronto is just where it was made. Basically I was wondering if he was tested for Alexithymia.