Mini Break Through

[macbeth]

I had a little bit of a breakthrough today. I have always been a bit of a doormat and a people pleaser and have struggled to stand up for myself. Today I stood my ground and stood up to someone. I was in the supermarket and somebody took offence to my child's behaviour. She actually said to me that I needed to learn how to raise my children or not have them at all because she considered them rude and disrespectful. Then she walked off. I said to her that I was sorry if their behaviour offended her and offered an apology but also told her that it was very rude offensive to tell people how to do the job of parenting. I was also able to stand my ground, something I haven't been able to do in 20yrs.

 

[Tanishq]

:tup: macbeth

That was really uncalled from her. You didn't ask her how to be good mum and she goes on to lecture you. Disrespectful woman. You did right and your response does explain you care for your kids. That woman must be hard mum. May be she has excessive pride that she thinks she can teach others without being asked in first place.

You breakthrough being doormat. You did right thing. :)

 

[fly away home]

Yay for you Macbeth. What a disgusting attitude that woman has. Someone should have raised her properly or not had her at all because I consider her to be rude and disrespectful. Lol. Gosh some people have a nerve. Congratulations for standing your ground and not losing your shit. Those sorts of comments can so often be the final straw. You did really well.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Yeah Go Macbeth Wonder mummy :hug:s

 

[macbeth]

Thanks guys. I really appreciate the support. I think what annoyed me the most was the child she was referring to has autism and has come a really long way with improving her behaviour and this woman had the nerve to tell me and also her off!! My children became frightened by her aggressive nature and they were very upset. That's not ok with me.

 

[LilBit]

So sorry you had that experience. I work in retail and unless the child is actually doing something destructive to property or physically hurtful to another, everybody should just keep their mouth shut. Oh yes, or something that might injure the child (such as climbing ladders or being underneath the carts where someone can run over their arms or hit their head or in one where it may tip over, a scary thing to see a cart tip and a child hit on a table). In years past when I was a cashier I had a customer with an autistic boy, about 9-10, and I always saw the poor kid at his worst because the noise/people/clamor of the checkout lane area freaked him out. He might have listened to his headphones and been FINE the rest of the shopping excursion.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Macbeth. You are a wonderful mummy and a great person. Stick to your guns.

 

[seedling]

I consider that much more than a little breakthrough. That's a big one to have something to say on the spot and go for it. No need to think afterwards "I wish I'd thought to say..."
Good for you! What we can do for our kids is amazing.

 

[Tanishq]

That's not ok with me.

Yes, we can see her behavior is unacceptable.

Kind :hug:s, I am thinking you have moved on from this. You reckon you breakthrough it. Wonderful way. You found a way!

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Congrats on the breakthrough!

 

[macbeth]

Thank you again guys. :hug:s to you all:)

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

Congratulations on know what you wanted to say and saying it.