I'm sorry that you are going through this. It is awful - probably really awful for both of you. :hug: Stopping Prozac cold turkey can cause the symptoms he is experiencing.
Beyond that, have you tried not rescuing him and changing him, which is likely impossible, as he has to want to change himself before any change happens... and instead tried changing you? Going to therapy for support for yourself and guidance through this process?
Not because anything is wrong with you, but because you can't change him. You can't. This is the crappiest and most painful thing about being a supporter, but try as you may, you can not change him - and you are working awfully hard at doing just that. Your intentions are good, but the task impossible.
What you can change is you. You can set your own boundaries about his behavior and symptoms. You can offer to take him to treatment options he chooses. If he doesn't choose treatment, and his behavior doesn't change, then you can work with a therapist to set boundaries of your own. Let him face consequences for choosing to not pursue treatment that is effective and works for him.
A supporter setting gentle but very clear consistent boundaries often does a lot more to change a situation than dragging an unwilling sufferer to treatment they are not interested in.
It's good to look into treatment options, and to give them to him, but it doesn't seem like he is interested in them at all as evidenced by his temper tantrums about it.
As for recording him, your intentions may again be good, but you are going about it in a way that could cause a lot more harm than good. The act of recording him without his knowledge or consent, in many states in the US, is a felony. it's a rather serious felony in many areas of the US that people spends years in prison for committing. Before you tape a conversation again, especially of someone in their private home, please Google "one party consent recording" and see if your state qualifies as one of the few where it is legal to record someone else without their knowledge or consent. Even better, consult an attorney.
If you really do want to record him, talk to him. See if he will agree to it when he is in a calm and lucid state. Not just because of the serious legal ramifications but because such recording could be considered a serious and extreme violation his trust. If he agrees, which he may agree, then ask to audio tape his agreement. Then later, when he is in a "non-lucid" state, then you can tape him.
But the need for caution does not end there. Please consider giving him the tape when he is with a professional. Listening to that tape recording could cause a mental breakdown of epic proportions. He is using denial as a defense mechanism for a reason. Tearing down the walls of denial in such a confrontational manner as to give someone a tape of themselves is something to do with a bit of care.
Early into my PTSD journey, when I was losing time and dissociating very badly, I taped myself. When I listened to my own tape recordings of myself to know what was happening when I was losing time, I lost my shit. It actually set me back significantly. It was good for me to do, but I wished I had listened to the tape with support and much more slowly than I did.
You are clearly frustrated and burned out. Focus on getting support for you first and foremost, and it may make dealing with him and his untreated and out of control symptoms an easier path.
