Acceptance

[Deleted member 12723]

I now accept me as I am. I accept that I am happy and I accept that I dare to enjoy being this way.

 

[Chava]

@Nighthawk , sorry I don't know your history, but have surgeries failed in the past? I have friends who are in less pain and more mobile after knee and hip replacements. So sorry to backtrack here and not just address my own stuff, but don't accept pain before the replacements. Your body might "accept" the new parts well. For my own part, it's tricky...I accept some pain but find I also can tip into "resigning" myself to it vs accepting. I'm still working on learning how to be in my body better, so that maybe the pain will lessen in time. I have tension everywhere and live on the periphery of myself, which makes everything more challenging.

Okay then. My acceptance: I've accepting that I'm not a total loser f*ck up, but have challenges connecting with others. Deep challenges, gnarly, heavy, and stuck at times. I'm careful to "accept" my challenges without resigning myself to them....so I know this is a thing for me, but I also patiently and more kindly work with it....either finding ways to improve my connection skills or work around the major challenges (like I shutdown and disengage in certain environments and often just need a break or more space, then I can return and not just run away). It's a lot of accepting where I'm at right now...which is not the same thing as accepting a future I do not know yet (more like a resignation pattern in my mind).

 

[Friday]

I accept I need help.

 

[Changing4Best]

I accept that solutions to problems that I encounter in the future may not be ones that I can think of now, but that they will be solutions none the less. (I have worried about the future a lot, so this has helped me a lot. I have been working on this fear of the futue a lot today, both with our PTSD Newsletter article that came in our emails today, and with this thread).

This is a great thread, by the way!