Anxiety And Worry Coming Back, Need Advice

[Deleted member 12723]

I have had a low grade anxiety. But it was not anything like the worry and anxiety I had before. I tell myself this could be a one time occurance and it does not mean it is coming back. I was thinking of staying off of the forum, but i get too much help and support here.

Has anyone ever had this happen to them before and if so how did you deal with it?

I need tips and advice on how to talk myself down. I took my anxiety meds and it made a difference for me. I am not sleeping through the night and the nightmares are starting to come back. I am scared.

I have a busy day today. I hope it helps to keep me occupied.

I would appreciate any kind of help that you can offer. I have a emdr appointment next Mon. It is the secont to the last one. I always do better after I have emdr. I wish they were not going to cut me off for two months. Please help. Thank you for reading. I am desperate.

 

[The Albatross]

Figure out what tripped you up. Cultivate a self support system that can buoy up your mood independent of others. It helps me to deal face to face with my anxiety.. and to confront the thoughts and feelings head on. A down day or two here and there are to be expected. Some nightmares are to also be expected. Anthony says time here will exasserbate (spelling?) symptoms. What time are you allowing for finding peace and calm in yourself Giz?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks Alby. That is a good question. I do not know that I set aside time for peace and calm in myself. I need to set aside a time that I pracitice this each day. I do not know what triggered it. Mabe it was the idea of going to the grief group and realizing I am not ready to do that yet. It is too real. Mabe I am being like a ostricth day by day dealing with the days worries.

I will have to set aside time for me to focus on peace and calm. I think I need more of a daily routine too. Each day is differerent from the day before. I will practice this. Thank you so much for responding.

 

[The Albatross]

Peace and calm are something I start my day with... self care, self care, selfcare. It comes from the inside and I choose to project it (someone said here recently "beam" it out). Me personally I thought that it might be the participation on the "My rights" thread. I know when I frame my thoughts that way bad things are bound to follow. It is focusing my attention and time on what I do not have, rather than the blessings and pleasures that I do. You are helpful and supportive of many people... but eventually, if you are not doing self care, it will come at a cost. Maybe your bout of anxiety is an example of this, maybe not.

At any rate... mild bouts of anxiety are far and away better that where we used to be. Just food for thought and self reflection. I personally choose not to evaluate or participate my life in terms of "my rights"... no good comes of it for me.

 

[The Albatross]

I don't think it's the support group. I think it's feeling comfortable where you're at... but knowing on a base level that your support is cyber. What is anxiety producing about finding real and genuine face to face with support, after all? You're already in need of it to manage your anxiety. Get out of your own way and get the support systems you need in place. For both of you. If this group isn't a good fit, you'll know in several meetings, but you'll never know unless you try. It's real, whether you want to go there or not.

 

[ertha]

Hey gizmo
I find positive affirmations help at times when I am really finding anxiety overwhelming, like today at the gym I was so in hyper vigilance overdrive looking around for a guy who resembles my childhood perpertrator...anyway I was scared so I wrote this on my iphone notes and stared at it and read it to myself for half an hour while I exercised, it got me through... "I am safe" "It's safe for me to relax" "It's safe for me to be beautiful"

I also find exercise good, getting lots of sleep good, having a tidy space good and when the wheels really fall off I take a great amino acid supplement to increase my serotonin levels and calm me right down. But when you are facing anxiety right there and then perhaps you could try to say positive affirmations that match your situation.

 

[intothelight]

Gizmo,

Two things things that helped me with anxiety are exercise and cutting down on the amount of caffeine that I consumed. I also find that if I can "derail" the anxiety train before it gains too much momentum I can calm myself. If I take a break and do something I enjoy for minute, whether it be reading a chapter in a book, doing a quick Bible study, taking a few minutes to look at nature, calling a friend....just anything to break up the whirling thoughts in my head.

Many times I cannot immediately identify the source of my anxiety. A lot of times it is just my extreme response to fairly normal daily life stress. Other times it is fear and it takes me a while to actually figure out what I am afraid of.

In your case, did thinking about the grief support group trigger the fear of losing your husband? I would suggest that you focus on the present and the time you have together right now. You know where the support group is when you need it. Expanding your social circle is important, but maybe at this point finding a group that has a common positive interest may be the best direction. Churches have a lot of small groups and talk to the pastor or church secretary to see what is available.

:hug:

Deb

 

[quaintpapercut]

Hi Gizmo - one thing I've been trying lately is observing what it feels like to be anxious. I'll really try to tune into my body instead of just trying to muscle through things. I'll pay attention to the tightness in my chest, how my breathing has changed, whether my stomach hurts etc. Sometimes I try to "soften" into it and just allow myself to feel and experience what is happening instead of freaking out that it is happening.

Cumulative days of disrupted sleeping/nightmares always makes things so much more worse for me. I try to be kinder to myself during those times and will set aside time for a nap or just quiet time laying down so my body can rest. Last night I woke up in the middle of the night with my head swimming full of thoughts and I couldn't fall asleep for hours and hours. I tried to concentrate on my breathing - focusing on my inhales and exhales but its a difficult thing to learn and practice. I do find though I have gotten better at it from when I initially started focusing on my breath more.

Wishing you strength to get through the day :)

 

[Whitneys story]

Gizmo, I feel this myself. Life will always have excitement, good and bad. I have been given an IPhone by the blind! My anxiety has been hitting the roof.

I feel it is part of past programming, but as a new issue we use our learned ways of getting above each issue. I feel you are reexperiencing the fear of losing your emdr, which helps you!

Maybe if you discuss this with your Dr it can be extended. Alot of the problems with medical treatment is the way it is billed by the Dr. I know you will get through this! Just keep doing your diary and breaking down into baby steps.

Others have made excellent suggestions! Remember your self in your caring. Hugs, Whitney

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks Alby. I think it was the group that set me off. Because it is too much reality. I think it is a good thing to be prepared but I think I have time to do it later on. I will look for a another group that is more positive. When I am ready. But I will focus on the things you said.
eartha, Thank you for the helpful suggestions. I will try to use positive affirmations. I will use some of the tips you suggested. Thank you so much for responding.

I think you are right on. It is not time to do that group. I need to be enjoying this time with my husband. I have a ways to go. i wanted to be prepared but I have plenty of time to do that. It triggered a great fear and it was too much reality and it is not even happening right now. I will look for a more positive group.

I felt a shift in my body yesterday. The anxiety went away. I slept good, no bad dreams or nightmares and no worries. I will use the things you suggested. I will get a handle on this. I do not know what caused the shift. But I am very grateful. I liked being like I was. Thank you so much for responding to me.


Thanks Quaint for responding to me. I will focus on my breath the next time. I think it will help. It will give me a focus point. I appreciate your sharing this with me.

Thanks Whitney for responding to me. I think I am feeling the loss of the emdr too. I will be without therapy for two months, thanks to my HMO. This is the way it works. So I will be on my own. I have so benefitted from the emdr. I have really enjoyed having something that works.

I will be kind to myself.

Thanks again to all of you for your care and willingness to respond. Currently I am feeling so much better. I wish I knew what caused the shift in my body because I would use that again. I think I will journal on that and see if I can find the source. I am feeling so much better.

 

[Tanishq]

I was thinking of staying off of the forum, but i get too much help and support here.

I think, this might be causing you some anxiety. One side you are trying to give yourself some rest and other side you seem worried for getting help.

I think staying off from forums for a while, a day could be fine for you. I feel you are asking for some rest. Am I understanding you right, gizmo?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Jaret, I get alot of rest. I get too much rest. I am housebound and am trying to get out more and to do stuff.I felt a shift in my body yesterday and I do not feel the anxiety or the worry. I am feeling so much better. I figured out what was the source of my anxiety and I am not going to do it.

I was worrying about something in the future and that is not healthy. I was so happy to be getting out. i wanted to be prepared for something bad that is going to be happening. My husband is going to die, and I wanted to be prepared for that.

Instead I will enjoy the time I have left with him. I will cross that bridge when I come to it. I will not forus on the usly reality so intensely.

I will focus on some fun stuff. I will do it one step at a time. I hope this explains things to you.