Relationship Anxious About Homecoming

[Bfab]

My bf is coming home from 6 weeks of inpatient care. Although I am excited to see him, I also get anxiety whenever I think about it.
I've only experienced him prior to his treatment being successful. I feel like I am going to have to get to know a new person all over again. I wondered if he will still feel the same about me now that he has been through treatment. My thoughts are all over the place! I felt similar to this when my ex husband came home from deployments, not knowing if he'd be good to me or be mentally abusive after each homecoming.
I lost his visitor pass and a receipt of his and couldn't keep an appt because of my mom's health scare. If it were my ex, he'd give me hell over this and I'm scared my bf will be the same way. I'm even thinking about leaving rather than go through a similar situation. Although my bf has never been abusive, I don't want to stick around to find out.

 

[Purplemunchkin]

Everybody and every situation is different, so I can't tell you what your bf will be like.

I can tell you that when my hubby (bf at the time) came home after inpatient treatment he was nervous and subdued. He would say that he wanted to go back as he felt safe there and vulnerable 'outside'.

The first time he came home without medication, ongoing therapy, or any real support from the mental health team. He lasted 6 weeks.

The second time he came home he was on medication and went to a day centre and had weekly meetings with his community care Co-ordinator. This was over three years ago.

Do you live with your bf, and do you have support?

 

[mary1979]

Just mentally prepare yourself for anything, and hope for the best!

6weeks of intensive therapy may seem a lot, but he will likely have had to absorb so much in that time that he will still need a period to process.

Dont expect miracles, and just be your usual loving self :)

 

[Bfab]

@Purplemunchkin He is on the same track as your husband's 2nd stay. He is on meds and will do 30 days outpatient as soon as he is released from the hospital. We don't live together, we usually see each 3-4 days a week. I have 2 friends that are my support. They have sufferers in their family so they can relate.