General Any Other Supporter In Panic??

[Trembling]

I honestly do not know if I should call it panic, anxiety or trauma??

Since my H. had his (for me) terrible episodes of drinking, destroying things, yelling and screaming, thinking him being somewhere else....I am the one reacting on certain things with panic:

• If I hear a single noise in the house

• If I hear a bang

• If he is on the phone with me and says certain words (nothing bad, but a phrase he usually mainly used when drunk)

• If I fall into thoughts and picture a moment of these episodes, the feeling comes back and stays for a while.

I never panicked about the future, but since he was terrified of it, and pressured me to make decisions, I cannot clearly think "about what I want".

I just told him how bad I reacted on his last phone call, and of course he apologized, but what is wrong, is it "normal"? I am trying now to calm myself, not sure how to do it, but I do not like this big stone I feel in my stomach area.....

Anyone knows what I am talking about??

 

[Nicolette]

Sorry to read what you are going through Trembling. There are times when the effects of PTSD have caused me great anxiety........ It's been good for awhile now so I can't think of any specifics but do feel for you. :hug:

 

[JustBe]

Yes Trembling, I too wake often with that icy cold stone in the pit of my stomach. (((Hugs!)))

 

[myvetswife]

Yep I know that one

 

[Toria]

Hi Trembling - I think I'd call it dread. I feel it when I hear the words "I've not been feeling very well today" - t can cover a wide spectrum of things, but my stomach lurches, I go cold... and start to tremble :wideeyed:. Once you've lived through Episodes it's only natural to not want to live through them again x

 

[Trembling]

Well, at least I am not going nuts. I wished we do not have to feel this.

Nicolette, you give me a bit hope that one day it might not be with me anymore.

I feel a bit better now, got my puppy back from the vet, she calms me, but I feel like crying and wonder if I have the right to do it?!?! Stupid!

HUGS to you all!

 

[amethist]

We all have right to cry Trembling, even if it is in the shower when no one can see or here us.

When I am drifting in my own thoughts and the phone rings, you could peel me off the ceiling sometimes.

My husband is doing well at managing his own issues at the moment, but it still send me into panic mode if he has fallen when his head is in a spin, or something else has happened to him.

So you are not alone with this, as you can now see.

 

[Trembling]

Amethist, it is just not fair for so many persons to suffer, and it is suffering.

Thank you for making me feel like being in the middle of people who understand me.

 

[SeekingSerenity]

Trembling, when I found out about my wife's diagnosis and I learned more about PTSD I also developed anxiety. Really bad anxiety, I would have full-blown panic attacks. I was very blessed in that I had a wonderful Psychiatrist who helped me work through my anxiety. It was so long since I had bad anxiety, but yesterday and today was the worst in several months. Because I havent had it for so long it took me quite a while to remember my exercises and breathing techniques to bring it under control.

I'm feeling much better again now, but dont ever feel alone in your suffering for your sufferer. We suffer for them because we love them so very much, thats the sad truth.

When you feel the anxiety coming on, try and concentrate on breathing slowly, regularly, and find a place in your mind that gives you peace, where you have beautiful memories. Mine was a beach where my wife and I had been on a holiday a few years ago. I go there in my mind, I visualise it in every detail, I breathe, and the anxiety goes. Then I can support properly again.

(((hugs)))

 

[Shoka]

Hi Trembling

I know exactly how you are feeling. Just went through something like this yesterday as a result of the actions of my partner.

I use an anxiety scale. 1 being no anxiety and 10 being panic. My partner and I understand that what he thinks is or should only be a "3" is often a 5 or 6 for me. I found the numeric system to be an easier way to communicate with him. I have different tactics for how to get that level of anxiety back to no more than a 2 or 3. Ideally my days for the norm would never rise to above a 2 with regard to my relationship.

Hope this helps you.

 

[Trembling]

Morning!

I will try to remember my favorite and "peace" place, but right now it is also like I feel depressed, and I would like to crawl into a corner, hide, be invisible and no one can see me.

When my man tells me he wants me to feel good again, I actually freak, but of course reply that I know he wants that. It is all so difficult.

It is terrible that so many of us have to suffer, on both sides.