Anyone Have These Memory Problems?

[Britt.f7]

No, she never took responsibility for it. She said if she did that then I must have provoked her.

 

[falling]

well...that's just awesome(NOT).

 

[Abstract]

What kind of message did she think that sent me???I now know that her 'let me take care of it' was her way of telling me not to say anything to upset her bf.

What it feels like to the child is that you are not loved, cared for, are unimportant and are unprotected. It seeps very deeply into who we are and how we feel about ourselves as people. The truth is that it says a whole lot about them rather than how they feel about us. I think they usually don't have the capacity to love in a healthy sense or to care for another human being in a way that isn't just about themselves. All fine really but then they shouldn't have children.

Your mother prioritised her boyfriend because she obviously needed him to prop up her self in some way. I am really sorry you had such bad parenting.

But still what if she had treated me differently???

I actually do think there is some blame in it. Maybe not the amount of blame that it feels like there should be at times but blame nonetheless. Many of us, me included, would have been much less likely to get into trouble outside the house if we we loved, listened to, felt important and had been taught we had value and how to keep ourselves safe. A parents job is to nurture the child and teach it the basic things it needs to be able to function in the world including self esteem. It doesn't mean they have to be perfect but to be good enough to be able to parent themselves well and manage the world and themselves. When that doesn't happen then we are left open to all sorts if other things. Things can happen anyway of course and do but the chances and amounts go down a lot and I suspect people are more more resilient in dealing with them when they happen.

The problem Falling is that if she was really capable of admitting and apologising and giving you what you need from her then you would be unlikely to be needing these things from her in the first place. Its like the frog and scorpion story. Its expecting the scorpion to act like a frog that will repeatedly get you stung.

I am glad you are no longer going to collude in the falsehoods. That is such a freeing place to be and takes courage.

You might find this interesting. https://www.myptsd.com/threads/are-...r-your-parent-that-did-not-protect-you.18508/

Britt, sorry you never got anything back from your mum.

 

[Forgetful]

I can totally relate to memory loss. 3 or 4 years ago I had 12 ECT treatments which basically destroyed my short term memory. It is so frustrating and makes me feel stupid when I can't find words or comprehension problems.

My husband is dyslexic and frequently asks me to spell words for him. I forget what I'm spelling in the middle of the word

Just now he asked me to pour him some soda with lots of ice. I placed his cup on the table, got the soda from the fridge. I opened the freezer and just spaced out and forgot why I was standing with the door opened until my husband told me I was looking for the ice.

Earlier today I got lightheaded and dizzy and after thinking about it realized I hadn't taken my blood pressure medicine in at least 3 days. I had to set a reminder on my phone so hopefully will remember it daily..

I make lots of lists and reminders to combat this. I usually park the car in the same row at the supermarket so I can find it. One day last week I parked someplace else. It took me 20 minutes to find it!

Glad to know others have the same difficulties.

 

[Changing4Best]

I have had memory problems on and off during my life. One time I was suffering with it so badly that I felt suicidal, so I got admitted to the mental ward. They diagnosed it as a reaction to 2 of my meds that were combined and should not have been, and so they revamped all my meds back then.

Now I am having memory problems again, but I don't know what to do. I am old enough now that it could be alzeheimers. I am taking a lot of B12 vitamin, which was recommended by a friend whose hubby takes it. He is older than I am and they say it helps him. It is helping me somewhat, but I am still suffering with this somewhat. I suppose I need to go get checked for Alzheimers. But I cannot afford all these Dr.s I think, but I don't know, if something really were wrong, (other than my mind is reacting to all the meds I take, which is also what my friends think this is... I could be heading into some kind of medical issue that is irreversable or something).

How old are you, if you have memory problems? Do you take a lot of psyche meds too?

 

[Teasel]

I have memory problems too, have been having them I think since I started getting migraines though I'm not completely sure.

I often forget words

I have real trouble recalling for eg things that have happ[ened to me or symptoms, have to think about it for some time. And write things down

I often forget what I did last weekend also

I alweays used to have a greaty memory!

When I've mentioned this to therapists, they've not really believed me so I'ts validating to have so many talk about it here