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first off I’m 36 and this women is 30 and a Doctor.
We meet up/went on dates 7 times. After the first date she told me she wanted to go out again. After the second date she told me “I’m the first guy in a long time she felt like she could have a conversation with” and told me let’s go out again. On the 3rd date I ate dinner at her place and she told me she does not want to touch till me establish a relationship. Since then we went on 2 dates and meet up at her place 2 times.
She has told me she doesn’t know why she has opened up to me so fast. She told me she had a very hard childhood with her parents, but most of her PTSD was from her ex husband. She has a 6 year old son from the previous marriage. She said she saw red flags with her ex, but she went to kiss her ex on the cheek and he kissed her on the lips. After that her thoughts got confused and ignored the red flags.
She told me her ex would ignore her all the time and only wanted to spend time with her when he wanted sex. When she visited his parents he would constantly put her down in front of his parents and when she would tell him to stop he would tell her what’s the big deal everyone knows I was joking. She really didn’t open up more about the past, but said she finally went to a women’s shelter to get away from her ex.
Now she is going through a custody battle. She said her ex took her son from her for 7 months and wouldn’t let her see the son. Now he is finally letting her see the son. the father said you can only see the son if you have supervised visits with the neighbor. They finally went to court and the ex husband told the court he had friends spying on the house. The court said that the current visitation should continue and no extra visitation was added.
Last time I was there at her place the 7th time we meet up she was crying because the way the ex is treating her. I held her hand and hugged her a few times. That’s the first time we touched. Then we cooked dinner together. Later she started crying because she text her ex around 6:30 to speak to her son before he went to bed around 7:30pm. She said the ex told her I will text you when we get home. When they go home she told me he texted it’s to late now and why do you need to speak to you son your going to see him tomorrow anyways. She started crying.
Later in the evening before I left we had a talk and she held my hand tight and told he she wants to have open and honest communication with me. I asked her if she thinks shes able to be in a relationship right now and she said yes. She also said she though when she was crying when I arrived I was going to kiss her and she doesn't want me to kiss her when she’s emotional because she thinks I’m taking advantage of her.
I was not trying to kiss her.
Before I left she hugged me.
She does text me all the time about what’s going on in her life and did text me once that because her ex she is emotionally and her emotions are distorted. The way we were asking Questions about each other the first few dates I though it was clear what we both wanted.
Why do you think we have not kissed yet by the 7th time.? Are we just friends or am I not flirting enough or is it her PTSD?
ETA: I asked her on the phone once how she though our relationship was progressing and she said” I think it’s progressing well”. She never called it a date and only calls it a meetup.
We meet up/went on dates 7 times. After the first date she told me she wanted to go out again. After the second date she told me “I’m the first guy in a long time she felt like she could have a conversation with” and told me let’s go out again. On the 3rd date I ate dinner at her place and she told me she does not want to touch till me establish a relationship. Since then we went on 2 dates and meet up at her place 2 times.
She has told me she doesn’t know why she has opened up to me so fast. She told me she had a very hard childhood with her parents, but most of her PTSD was from her ex husband. She has a 6 year old son from the previous marriage. She said she saw red flags with her ex, but she went to kiss her ex on the cheek and he kissed her on the lips. After that her thoughts got confused and ignored the red flags.
She told me her ex would ignore her all the time and only wanted to spend time with her when he wanted sex. When she visited his parents he would constantly put her down in front of his parents and when she would tell him to stop he would tell her what’s the big deal everyone knows I was joking. She really didn’t open up more about the past, but said she finally went to a women’s shelter to get away from her ex.
Now she is going through a custody battle. She said her ex took her son from her for 7 months and wouldn’t let her see the son. Now he is finally letting her see the son. the father said you can only see the son if you have supervised visits with the neighbor. They finally went to court and the ex husband told the court he had friends spying on the house. The court said that the current visitation should continue and no extra visitation was added.
Last time I was there at her place the 7th time we meet up she was crying because the way the ex is treating her. I held her hand and hugged her a few times. That’s the first time we touched. Then we cooked dinner together. Later she started crying because she text her ex around 6:30 to speak to her son before he went to bed around 7:30pm. She said the ex told her I will text you when we get home. When they go home she told me he texted it’s to late now and why do you need to speak to you son your going to see him tomorrow anyways. She started crying.
Later in the evening before I left we had a talk and she held my hand tight and told he she wants to have open and honest communication with me. I asked her if she thinks shes able to be in a relationship right now and she said yes. She also said she though when she was crying when I arrived I was going to kiss her and she doesn't want me to kiss her when she’s emotional because she thinks I’m taking advantage of her.
I was not trying to kiss her.
Before I left she hugged me.
She does text me all the time about what’s going on in her life and did text me once that because her ex she is emotionally and her emotions are distorted. The way we were asking Questions about each other the first few dates I though it was clear what we both wanted.
Why do you think we have not kissed yet by the 7th time.? Are we just friends or am I not flirting enough or is it her PTSD?
ETA: I asked her on the phone once how she though our relationship was progressing and she said” I think it’s progressing well”. She never called it a date and only calls it a meetup.
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