“Based on your behaviour, you deserve less than a violent criminal being held in solitary confinement in prison...”.
This is what you described, and what (you knew) people were responding to.When a teenager is in their room with just a mattress on the floor, one pillow and one blanket, they tend to realize quickly what good behavior is and egarly earn back the stuff they cherish.
I know what you are talking about.
But it does in my opinion change the dynamic.And? Doesn't retract from the points made IMHO.
Or make them somehow less valid from the concern for well...