Communication Difficulties

[Teasel]

Ok so I feel like there is an avalanche of need to communicate all sorts of things that I have not been able to communiacte. And I feel so very very stuck each and every time I think that I want to start trying that I get stuck - frozen even. I am writing this in the hope that a very small start might lead to a little improvement here and there.

Anyone have any tips on what helped you get "unstuck" or started?

Thanks ever so much

 

[Ronin]

Just doing it. And praising myself for every time I'm doing it. Self talk does a lot, so does acknowledging miscommunications happen naturally and willingness to keep going regardless.
Congratz, you've started by asking us how to start. ;)

 

[Go Hungry]

Yep, just piece by little piece. It will start coming out slowly, and occasionally like a flood of information that'll knock your socks off. It's fun. :)

 

[Seasounds]

Ideas:

• Imagine you are writing to a friend, with whom you feel safe.
• Approach writing like an exploration, or playing, to see what happens.
• Know that whatever you write will be received, and that it may be helpful to others.
• Connect to a feeling, or a thought, or a need, that you have; let that flow out of you, without editing. Afterwards, edit it, just a bit, to keep the life in your post.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I know there are forms of structured journaling....maybe google that so you can start by writing? I've always hated writing so never delved into that sort of thing. My journals are more visual works of art than anything else, with few words.

 

[holdenmonty]

For me I just start out by how I'm feeling a certain day and then it seems to just flow. Sometimes I feel like when it comes to my emotions and feelings I am mute but when it comes to my fingers I can say anything and everything with how I'm feeling well to a certain extent some things are still tough to even type about but it's like I feel like I can't verbalize certain things but writing them down or typing them out helps.

 

[Teasel]

I feel so stuck
1 I think why would anyone want to hear my stuff - they never have before - and I'm not saying that's true, but I'm so used to it being true that now my head is so full of that world view I can't get past it

2 I feel so defective and have always been someone who falls through the cracks....

I don't know I think I've imprisoned myself by taking on the voice of those I heard when I was young.

I admitted to a friend tonight that I'm frightened, they said you'll be fine

Feeling a bit insane

 

[Friday]

There are some things I can only talk about when I've got skin to skin contact with someone else, am drunk, or am caught by surprise. LOL or all 3. Oy vey.

I keep trying to do it straight. SUDS breaks whenever I try, though. So far. Some dances take a helluva long time to work. Took me 2 years to be in crowds, again. Only been trying to talk about shit for a few months.

 

[Teasel]

@FridayJones Thank you for saying that.

Sometimes I (in all honesty) think that drinking and taking a certain substance is theraputic - obviouisly not really but..??

Is SUDS tears?

Yes, this dance has taken a helluva long time. Think the pain of not having talked being so great is the only thing that is making me try?

On the other hand - bollox, I've tried to talk to people forever, just not found anyone who copuld hear it xx

 

[Friday]

Subjective Units of Distress Scale :)

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http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Subjective_units_of_distress_scale

 

[Teasel]

Thankyou very much @FridayJones x