What I'm having trouble getting my head around, is where this notion of being suggested that you don't have a debilitating lifelong mental illness is somehow a bad thing.
Are people really that keen to a victim of something?
If I came here with what I thought was ptsd. Then was told by several members that no, you probably don't. "Because X, Y, Z, reason. Maybe you should consider a second opinion?"
I wouldn't be unhappy about that. Because maybe, just maybe. I don't have a debilitating lifelong mental illness that's going to f*ck up everything I thought I had going for me.
Maybe what I have is curable, or easier to manage effectively than ptsd.
Maybe there's actually some light at the end of the f*cking tunnel. I know I'd be a damn sight better off than I am now. I'd be taking my new found optimism and be calling a new doctor for appointment. Pleased that I might not have to suffer for the rest of my days.
I try to avoid commentating on these threads, as it's often probably more detrimental to me than if I just let it alone.
Especially after reading the bit about "purists". Really? Are you f*cking kidding me?
PTSD is a mental disorder. It's an ailment, malaise, problem, sickness, detriment, bad, unwanted, serving no useful purpose.
If you haven't got it, you don't want it.
Having it doesn't make you part of some special club. Getting rid of it, isn't an option. Getting it in the first place wasn't a choice.
Keeping it isn't desirable.
I find it distressing and frustrating to see someone come here asking a fair question that turns into a ray of hope for me, as the OP for this thread did.
As I can read their story and think. Good. Here's someone who maybe doesn't have to live with this.
They then receive good information by people who care enough to try and help as best they can. Great. Were I in that persons shoes, I'd be grateful to get a honest opinion. Whether or not they choose to follow up on it is up to them.
Getting a second opinion is always a good idea when the only path ahead of you is misery. At least I think so.
Then, out from the woodwork comes some person either on this thread or another. There's always one it seems.
"Stop!
Don't listen to these people! They don't know what they're talking about. You're doomed! Clearly you have an incurable mental illness. You'll be sick for ever and ever! They're just trying to keep you away from the super secret awesome prize, that is ptsd! Aren't you glad I came along to dash your hopes?
Aren't you excited?"
What prize is that?
"Misery, fear, depression, self-loathing, guilt, insomnia, irrational anger and an inability to function properly in society! Forever! Wow!"
Why would anyone want this?
Why would anyone fight to have this.
More astoundingly. Fight to convince someone else that they have this? Hell. You want it so goddamn badly, you can have mine. I've had enough of the amazing prize. I'm so desperate to get rid of feeling this way I'd be tempted to sell it to a fool if it were possible.
Why would anyone think this is a good thing? How are you helping someone by telling them that they are going to suffer forever?
I don't care if someone thinks I'm exclusionary, cause yeah, I don't want people to suffer unnecessarily. What a terrible person I must be?
My actual question here in this post, is why do people do this? What is the allure of this disorder?
Do they want pity? I don't understand.
Can anyone please explain why this sort of thing happens?
I hope I'm not breaking any rules with this post. If I am just delete it and ignore me. I'll get over it.