Conflicts In Communication

[Sandstone]

What you describe sounds like normal interaction for us. I find "Did you hear what I just said?" is a useful question, but can only use it now we have both acknowledged we don't always hear. It doesn't work if it is an accusatory tone.

 

[Eagle3]

Yep, sounds like normal male/female interactions. The suggestion of making sure you have his full attention before saying anything is a good one. If he's on the Autism spectrum, same thing. What I suggest, however, is either couples therapy, or get a copy of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" and read it together. Communication and relational differences between men and women are normal, but PTSD and ASD can make those little annoyances into a much bigger issue. I'm an Aspie with PTSD, so I don't even want to BEGIN thinking about how hard it will be for me to have a decent relationship with a guy, and all the communication difficulties that will arise between us. Good luck!

 

[Tinyflame]

I'm not married, so maybe I'm wrong, but I agree with @FridayJones for a solution.

I can't remember if you both have ptsd? It doesn't sound intentional. Is there more going on, you said it's always your fault?

Tbh, the more relevant thing (to just me) would be if he said thank you for the dinner, ie appreciation of one another.