reallydown
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Wow...this sounds so much like the situation one of my close friends is in. And, as everyone has already said, no, he won't stop. I have never met my friend's boyfriend (I refuse to)...but the first time I met her after not having contact for well over 6 months, the way she talked about him and the interactions (she would tell me some things he texted), I could tell right off the bat that he is possessive, jealous and controlling. He comes off as a nice, respectful guy but based on what she's told me about him, he is an abusive jerk. Her family all love him and she's already at an age when, culturally, there's a lot of pressure on women to get married and it seems pretty certain that she will marry this guy. At times, she seems aware that his behaviours are not acceptable...but usually after she tells me something bad he did or said...she sort of goes back and blames herself and minimizes it and even changes the story a bit so it doesn't seem as bad...
She said she has tried to break up with him before but he said he decides when the relationship is over. It's really heartbreaking. There are other issues at play. She has a mental illness and very low self-esteem and either he or her family (or both) seem to have convinced her that she can't do better. She probably does love him too, Apparently he had left once or twice (they live together) but he came back...Who knows, maybe it's just a ploy for her to give in to whatever he want(ed)...
Anyway, the best you can do is try to be there fro her. Gently remind her through actions like sending her the article (though obviously not in a way that will make her feel pressured), As everyone has said, she has to get fed up with it...see it herself...or rather, get to that point where she's had enough. Sorry if this is incoherent. Hugs if you accept them.
She said she has tried to break up with him before but he said he decides when the relationship is over. It's really heartbreaking. There are other issues at play. She has a mental illness and very low self-esteem and either he or her family (or both) seem to have convinced her that she can't do better. She probably does love him too, Apparently he had left once or twice (they live together) but he came back...Who knows, maybe it's just a ploy for her to give in to whatever he want(ed)...
Anyway, the best you can do is try to be there fro her. Gently remind her through actions like sending her the article (though obviously not in a way that will make her feel pressured), As everyone has said, she has to get fed up with it...see it herself...or rather, get to that point where she's had enough. Sorry if this is incoherent. Hugs if you accept them.