General Does My Mom Really Have Ptsd Or Something Else

[ggsparky]

Just thought I'd ask if it's possible my mom has ptsd..... She wants that diagnoses..... Yet she's been diagnosed for phyco mania and bipolar. She has been abused as a child sexually which she found out reciently. Apparently blocking it out. Her father dennied doing anything and she feels something happened just by a dream she had. Growing up she use to tell me every day that my dad was sexually abusing her and that she wanted us to support her and stand up and tell court that we didn't want to see are dad. I was homeschooled half my life and my mom told us that we had to hear about my dad so we were educated. I remember when she talks her eyes get wide and it's like she's not actually talking but visualizing in her head what she's talking about. It's scary. I always loved my mom.when i got married she tried to ruine my wedding and constantly talks about my dad abusing her. They are seprated. She has been on no meds because she refuses saying it's normal the way she is and she just has ptsd. She ended up in mental hospital three times and just got out. Things are okay but she doesn't want anything to do with dad. Is this ptsd? She only had one nightmare and she talks constantly about abuse instead of avoiding like most people do ...

 

[Loner]

It is absolutely impossible for anyone on this site to diagnose your mother one way or the other (heh, I rhymed!) Ok, sorry, but seriously, no one is going to be able to say anything even close to definitive either way, but just based on what you are telling us, it sounds like some of her behavior could just be manipulative.

What do YOU think/feel about her?

 

[Abstract]

Sadly it could be anything. It could be PTSD with a few other things added to it, it could be related to what she has been diagnosed with before or she could also have other issues.

It is possible for someone with PTSD to constantly speak about abuse and be obsessed with it, or if she has psychotic manic episodes she could literally be imagining things. I hope she sees a good psychiatrist as I suspect that is the only way she will get a proper diagnoses.

I am very sorry that you had to endure this. Being told those things can make someone themselves end up with upsetting symptoms. It was very inappropriate and wrong of her.

 

[ggsparky]

Yea but no ones perfect I guess I just wondering if having ptsd could make you take it so far that you think everyone is abusive... I mean everyone and she refuses going to a counselor that won't see she has ptsd for abuse... I get it's dumb to ask on this website but I just didn't know if anyone knows someone like this.

 

[Abstract]

It does make people see potential danger where there isn't any - see it everywhere - but believing that experiences of sexual or physical abuse have happened when they haven't is something different and not about PTSD. It would be possible for someone to have PTSD and delusions.

Am I understanding counsellors have said she has not got PTSD and she is refusing to see anyone that doesn't agree with her? Have you spoken to any of these therapists? It's sounding a little to me like she might just be suffering with delusions.

 

[radicalgratitude]

I know you came on here to ask about your mom but I am concerned for you. You have been through a lot. I can tell that you are a wonderfully compassionate person and you truly love your mom. That is admirable. However it sounds like your life hasn't been the easiest either, based on what you wrote. I would advise you to receive counseling. Who knows, you may even have "secondary trauma."

As far as your mom goes, I am not qualified to say whether she has PTSD, but I agree with Abstract and Loner. She might be unintentionally manipulative as well as delusional.

 

[Barconian]

Just thought I'd ask if it's possible my mom has ptsd..

Your mother is playing the victim and is trying to get you to feel sorry for her... My daughter went through this since she was nine years old and my daughter has suffered terribly from having to be the mother figure for her mother and it really does suck. If you get fed positives through your life, you will be confidant. If you get fed negatives through your life, you feel frustrated, afraid and unsure of yourself! That is just my thoughts

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

No.

That's not PTSD. It's just not.

 

[Lost Pup]

All we can do here is respond to what you have told us and that story is always going to be influenced by what you choose to share. We can speak to your impressions of her, but not to the actual her. I am getting the sense that you rightly feel like your mom has behaved inappropriately towards you. I am sorry for that. I am also getting the sense that you believe your mom has Bipolar disorder rather than PTSD. Yet noone here can possibly offer you helpful advice on what is going on inside your mother's head.

There is nothing in what you have written that rules out PTSD or Bipolar. Someone else mentioned delusions but delusional disorders (as distinct from thought disorders like schizophrenia and bipolar) are extremely rare and often characterized by someone who is normal and well-adapted outside of a firmly held, fixed delusional belief. I have an acquaintance who has a life-compromising delusional disorder. She is a quiet, extremely generous woman in her early 60's, seemingly normal only, once you talk to her, you learn she carries two suitcases with her wherever she goes because she believes people are covertly stalking and harassing her, going into her home when she goes out. She believes this deeply and suffers immensely from the fear and instability of it. Your mom sounds much more emotionally chaotic, from the limited amount you have shared.

Is there any chance that you can organize your own life in such a way that you are insulated from your mom's problems? Take care of your own feelings without getting involved in her dx?

 

[Hashi]

Growing up she use to tell me every day that my dad was sexually abusing her and that she wanted us to support her and stand up and tell court that we didn't want to see are dad.

I have no interest in your Mom. Only what's going on with you. Leaving her and her issues aside, what help are you getting?

 

[ggsparky]

All we can do here is respond to what you have told us and that story is always going to be influenced by what you choose to share. We can speak to your impressions of her, but not to the actual her. I am getting the sense that you rightly feel like your mom has behaved inappropriately towards you.

I dont know what she has. In factI feel like I'm losing my mind trying to figure it out. But I don't think my mom behaved inappropriately towards me yet. I get everyone around me getting mad at me because I shouldn't be trying to help her and get mad at me that my mom is acting the way she is, and honestly growing up yea she did a lot of things that I can't remember but she was my mom and shes always been awesome and I just want her to be okay.

No I can't organize my life to get away from her problems. Sadly it's not going to happen. It's like if you had a daughter and she had a problem you wouldn't just give up on her...

 

[ggsparky]

Your mother is playing the victim and is trying to get you to feel sorry for her... My daughter went through this since she was nine years old and my daughter has suffered terribly from having to be the mother figure for her mother and it really does suck. If you get fed positives through your life, you will be confidant. If you get fed negatives through your life, you feel frustrated, afraid and unsure of yourself! That is just my thoughts

yea i found out that apparently its not good to be a mother figure to ur mom. i just thought i was doing the right thing but now im just getting overwelmed.