Feeling exposed after telling about ptsd

[talon]

I recently revealed to my bf some of the things that happened in my childhood that resulted in my ptsd and went into more detail than I ever have, like how my mom watched me attempt suicide and told me not to fail because she was worried that I'd be a burden as a coma victim. I thought he would be receptive, and he was really nice, at least on the surface. But now I'm very worried that I revealed too much, and that he'll reject me because I'm too damaged. He has said that me and his son are the best things in his life and that he feels very lucky to have met me. But maybe he has changed his mind after finding out that my parents did some things that were so horrible that I could not possibly be well or be a reliable human being.

I know that probably my ptsd will make me catastrophize this. But there's also the reality that damaged people will do damaged things, and I wouldn't blame him for wondering if I'm okay. I really need some perspective here. Has anyone lost bfs by telling about their ptsd? Did it change the relationship for the worst by telling about the ptsd? I'm trying to live by my credo that my truth is good enough and that in order to live authentically, I want to share parts of myself with my bf. I feel that we've known each other long enough - for about a year. But maybe it's too much, too soon?

I was accused of a serious sexual assault by a lady i revealed too much to she using this knowledge to later blackmail me . When i told her she could not have any more money as my daughter getting married i was of no further use . I do not wish to alarm you and please do not feel it applies to most it does not . Your friend seems genuine and you obviously opened up because you felt comfortable in doing so. Speak with your friend and share how you feel because of the trust you put in them . It is good to share and it helps to do so but just be aware of the risks. Mine was an extreme case of someone with DID who targeted me as a vulnerable to seek revenge on her real abusers ( parents ) through others. This is very rare so it is unlikely that your best friend would take advantage but being aware of those you share with in protecting yourself . Remember real friends are there for you

 

[PreciousChild]

Sorry to hear that @ROBERT TALON. I do understand that actually damaging things could happen by revealing one's story. But as you say, it would be quite rare, and probably not the basis for a long-term life lesson and hopefully one that can be usually be avoided by using good judgment about the people you trust to tell.

For me, the story has a happy ending. Since telling my boyfriend about my past, he has been his usual sweet self to me, but it has also brought us closer. For my part, I revel in the knowledge that he knows more about my dark past, and still adores me. It really felt like if I showed him how my parents saw me, he'd see the same thing. But he rejected their treatment of me out of hand, and reserved only compassion for me. On his end, he seems to indicate that he has even more to admire and love about me - he told me this weekend that "special" does not do justice in describing me. That's more than I could have hoped for.

Even if things didn't work out between him and me (I truly think it will, but just saying), telling, and being affirmed in my experience, and then being lauded for my strength has been healing in a lasting way. I will never eradicate the risk that revealing my past exposes me to, but this has given me courage to continue to do so to the extent I am strong enough to handle it.

 

[talon]

Sorry to hear that @ROBERT TALON. I do understand that actually damaging things could happen by revealing one's story. But as you say, it would be quite rare, and probably not the basis for a long-term life lesson and hopefully one that can be usually be avoided by using good judgment about the people you trust to tell.

For me, the story has a happy ending. Since telling my boyfriend about my past, he has been his usual sweet self to me, but it has also brought us closer. For my part, I revel in the knowledge that he knows more about my dark past, and still adores me. It really felt like if I showed him how my parents saw me, he'd see the same thing. But he rejected their treatment of me out of hand, and reserved only compassion for me. On his end, he seems to indicate that he has even more to admire and love about me - he told me this weekend that "special" does not do justice in describing me. That's more than I could have hoped for.

Even if things didn't work out between him and me (I truly think it will, but just saying), telling, and being affirmed in my experience, and then being lauded for my strength has been healing in a lasting way. I will never eradicate the risk that revealing my past exposes me to, but this has given me courage to continue to do so to the extent I am strong enough to handle it.

Thats nice we can all make mistakes when we are vulnerable and revealing too much to the wrong people could be a problem but so glad that for you as you say there is a happy ending