Help . . . How Am I Going To Get Through The Holidays?

[seedling]

I think it's the little things that we do that really make Christmas. And it's good to slow down and have time for them.
A lot of people in this area celebrate mostly on Christmas Eve, a Swedish thing I think. Kind of envious of them snuggling down after dark with the candles lit and their hot dinners on the table. A special evening.

Take care PH

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Seedling I think you are right about the little things. Just making a point of spending Christmas Eve with my girls will be a big deal to them, yet it seems so small to me. I like the idea of the candle lite. Makes a cozy warm feeling. Thanks Seedling! PH

 

[intothelight]

Hi PH,

I am right there with you. It is hard to grieve on Christmas, but it is the children that put it all back in perspective.

(((hugs)))

Deb

 

[shadowchaser]

Maybe just celebrating Christmas Eve with my girls is enough of a new tradition for this year. Would love any other simple suggestions for traditions.

Take your girls and decorate a tree outside? You can put up different things that wild animals can eat. More often then not you can watch animals coming up to it for days checking out the decorations and having a nibble of what you put out for them.

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Trying to remember Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Christ. It is not about how I feel, or who I am or am not with, or what I am doing. Just can't seem to shake this depression yesterday or today. Very sad and lonely.

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Seems like the running theme on the holidays. Lonely!

Spent New Years Eve by myself, alone, lonely, depressed. God I hate it, Will it get better with time?

Now I have my birthday and my wedding anniversary to get through. Jan. 26 will be 26 years of marriage. Been separated 8 months now and the divorce is not final until March 3. This time of year just goes from one thing to another. I think I am doing better at handling things though. Yes, I get depressed and lonely, but I am not thinking the only way out is to kill myself. That is a huge improvement. The bouts of deep depression and hurt seem to be shorter themselves. Instead of weeks, it is days. Much better. Trying to look at the positive here.

When is it okay to call people? I mean when is it okay to call and say...hey, can I spend this holiday with you so I am not alone? I guess I need to be okay to accept...."no, we are just doing a family thing", or whatever the no might be. See how I do that, automatically think the answer will be no. So I don't ask and then I get on here and whine about being alone. How pathetic is that! That damn fear of rejection.

Well, today is New Years Day and I am not alone. My girls are home. Now....what to do to make it a good day with them.