How Do I Stop The Rape Flashbacks?

[Justmehere]

You. Did. Nothing. Wrong.

Nothing. Absolutely nothing. He is a perpetrator and a horrible person for what he did to you. He was completely in power and you need outside help to get away from him and get the trauma to stop.

Please contact RAINN. Please re-consider talking to your therapist about what is going on. I know you are scared right now and probably feeling like crud in many ways. You have already taken some really brave steps - keep taking more steps to get help. The quicker you can contact them, the better things will work out for you and everyone over the long run. Talk to RAINN - please at least go to the online chat hotline - https://hotline.rainn.org/online/terms-of-service.jsp You can tell them everything and they will help you figure out what to do.

 

[Alex Callen]

Hello.

Sorry for the last post, it was very uncalled for. However, I did finally get the courage to tell my mother about this. She was so sad, she was crying, she kept apologizing, and I kept apologizing, we were both crying. But I swear, those were the happiest tears I've ever shed. I don't know what she is going to do, I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm going to get tested for, diseases, and such, as soon as possible. She said she was suspicious of something going on because I walked with a limp whenever I came back from his house, I guess the force of the, rape, caused me to temporarily walk with a limp. I am so glad this is over.

I am begging her not to do any of this court, and jail stuff, begging her so much. I hope she listens.

Thank you so much for everything. I cannot thank you enough.

 

[ghotiff]

No need to apologise for your last post, you were hurting.

I am so so so so so so so glad that you told your mother and that she was and is there for you.

In regards to begging her not to do court 'stuff' (legal path). There have been a number of posts on this forum that have discussed the need for victims of this type of crime to NEED control and to NEED to be able to decide what happens next. I presume that your mum has no experience with this type of thing. I would like to suggest that you tell your mother that you need to feel like you have control over the court stuff, that you are not saying "no" to the legal path, but instead "not yet" and you want to feel that you have control over that process. You could tell her that you have not had "control" for many years now, and you would like to re-gain some "control" now.

If she is not hearing your need on this, maybe she would hear the request that she get counselling on how to help you with this, prior to "doing" or "starting" anything legal. Going the legal path can be very traumatic for some people (for others it helps them)....only you know where you are at. Ideally something will be done, but there are a lot of options on what can be done and nothing has to happen immediately. If your mother is not listening, please ask for our advice on how to help her listen and hear your need on this.

We are here for you.

 

[Echo]

@Alex Callen, I am so relieved to hear that you've been so brave. I expect your mum is really glad that you've confided in her and she can help you now. I hope she will take advice and you can get all the help you need.

Please don't apologise for your last post. Many of us completely understand that distress. I'm very glad you reached out to us and we could help you in some way.

@ghotiff's post says it so well. Telling your mum that you need to go at your pace and make your own decisions so that you feel you are in control is so important.

Let us know how you get on if you'd like to do so. I hope all goes well with the testing. Take care.

 

[Fadeaway]

@Alex Callen Just wanted to let you know, that you gave me the courage to do something today, that I had been wanting to do for a while now, but was too afraid. Your strength inspired me to tell my story to the one person who deserved to know.

You really should be so proud of yourself. Your bravery was an inspiration to me.

 

[KP the nut]

DIDNLRT DMATENA TO NMFG

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