How Do You Break It Off?

[Fadeaway]

I started seeing a new therapist, but I haven't had the guts to tell my old therapist I am not coming back. I am supposed to have an appointment tomorrow, but I can't bring myself to say I am not going to be there.

I have had an incredibly rough day with being called over something my husband already told the person not to speak to me but take it directly to him. Yet she waited until he was at work to bring it up with me. So my anxiety is through the roof and I already feel like I am on the verge of a melt down. My husband doesn't want me seeing the old therapist because he feels like he did more harm than good so I don't want to keep the appointment.

I feel like such a coward, but the thought of calling makes me feel dizzy and sick and I don't know why!

 

[SeanCharles]

I would have cancelled the appointment within 24 hrs of the scheduled appointment expressing that I didn't want to reschedule. They likely would take it as a concern, however being under a new therapist can be a lot better than seeing one who may be making matters worse.

 

[digger]

Is this the guy that fell asleep in your sessions? Apologies if I've got the wrong person, but if not, he doesn't deserve an explanation. Can your husband call and cancel for you? Or email maybe?

 

[silkleaves]

Don't beat yourself up...I get anxious when I have to make a phone call over something lame like ordering a pizza. You have no idea how grateful I am to be able to do that online now hah! Seriously though, when I have to make a call..any call, it takes me several days to talk myself into it. This has the added weight on it the situation with your Therapist and that you are essentially dumping them. That's a lot of pressure..I don't blame you at all.

Definitely though see if your husband can call in for you to cancel the appointment and let them know you won't be returning. At least it will get done, and the weight is off of you to do it.

 

[Fadeaway]

@digger, yes it is. He doesn't do e-mail, but I might be able to get my husband to call.

 

[GWhizz]

If he's in anyway professional, he should be able to deal with this. Therapist have their own supports etc. Though he doesn't sound too professional at all lol. Maybe it would be good for your husband to call and explain the truth. That way your old therapist may wake up - every pun intended!