How Important Is The Gender Of Your T?

[Coffee Cup Kid]

Im a straight cis-gender girl but can only see guy therapists. I could never imagine being able to go to a girl one. I have no major problem discussing even quite challenging things like perhaps sexual related things most of the time.

What about other people on this? Could you only see a guy or a girl and why?

 

[ShodokanJenn]

I have extreme trust issues with women. I don't think I could ever have a female therapist (or doctor). My therapist is a male. I am female. It took me years to find him buy it was worth the hunt.

 

[hodge]

I am a woman and I have only ever been able to go to women therapists. I can't talk about my crap with a man. And I guess I've always looked for an alternative mother figure. It's worked out for me.

 

[RavenGirl]

I'm a woman and my T is also a woman. For me since I was abused by boys / men I would have a huge problem trusting and being able to open up to a guy T. Just thinking of having to tell a guy about what happened to me as a child makes me want to jump from the tallest building or crawl into a hole and die...

 

[Anarchy]

I've never thought of it like this before
I'm sort of Bi - Pan, but any actuality of that was a long time ago (more than 3 decades)
I feel more comfortable talking about orientation to a female - on the nutty basis that I fear a male might make a move.

nutz, I know...

 

[DogwoodTree]

I'm female...married to a man...abused by men when I was a kid...but also emotionally abused by my mom and watched my sisters abused, too. I don't trust women hardly at all, and I see a male T.

He helped me open up to the idea of seeing women Ts for specific therapies, like when I saw a woman for equine therapy. But those are only for shorter term treatments when seeing a man isn't an option, and it's still really hard to open up to women or even have a decent conversation with a woman. I don't see women as being "strong enough" to handle my crap, so I'm always filtering out all emotions around them.

 

[mrsps]

I am a female with a female T. Couldn't see a male T as wouldn't be able to trust them. I also like an older female T as a mother like figure.

 

[watundah]

I am a womam and prefer a woman for most things...therapists, doctors...gender bias...in search of tenderness and compassion.

 

[Panda Bear]

I was abused by both genders.....but the man did the shorter damage...

I chose a man.

 

[Friday]

I'll take help wherever I can get it. Male, female, tree... Doesn't really make a difference to me. That said, I tend to get on better with men than women. It's just a tendency. There are kickass women out there I get on with just fine, and men whose best accessory would be duct tape across the mouth. Shrug.

Talking on the other hand? FFS. The only people I can talk easily with I'm naked with :banghead: lol. Vexing, that.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh @FridayJones , :roflmao: but true.

I think as a child my dog was my T. :)

I too have had more male friends, but they usually are gentler, say what they mean & want, don't hold grudges or do the silent treatment or shaming, not so put off with swearing etc. But there are cool women too.

I imagine whoever you can relate to best or is the best fit would be the best choice, based on personalities, your history, needs etc.

 

[Virtues]

I am a male, I can only talk to females. I was raised in a household where men don't talk about their feelings. Then I joined the Marine Corps, a culture where men don't talk about their feelings. I've found only women can get me to open up, and if there is any real progress to be made I need to sit down with a female T.