How To Decide What To Talk About?

[Leighlee87]

Okay, so my therapist has decided that I need to completely take over therapy sessions, and she is going to remain quiet for the most part. This started last session. She interjected a few times to get me to look deeper at things or analyze more, but I was on my own. She told me that if it got quiet, she wasn't going to jump in and save me, I tested it out, she meant it. There is good reason for her doing this, and it has a lot to do with negative transference. But I'm not at all comfortable with our new setup.

I feel like I have to essentially come up with an hour long monologue. I have absolutely no idea what to bring up or discuss. Normally, I walk in and she already has things planned for us to talk about. If there is something that I feel is important that needs to be addressed, I will do so at the beginning of the session. But now, I have no idea what to do. How do you decide what to bring up each week? I'm in such a weird spot. We've just finished up emdr, so it's not like we've been in the middle of some intense discussions that I can go off of. And life at home seems incredibly calm.

 

[ladee]

So talk about that...talking with our T is not always pain and gloom...it's also about the good things going on in our life.
You can talk about how else has changed how you think and feel.
This is a very good thing she is doing...hope it goes well for you.

 

[Eagle3]

Hmmm...that happens a lot to me too. If I get quiet, he'll take something from one of my emails, or I'll just fill him in on something bothering me even if its really petty. Sometimes if I'm doing REALLY well, we'll go to the office dojo for some kata practice or do some tablework so the conversation can be more spontaneous and organic. When HE gets quiet, I get nervous...but its usually because he's thinking about something I said. He lets me lead most of the time, but he knows I have a hard time with running conversations, so we practice that too.

I HATE when T's get quiet on me!

 

[ladee]

I loved it When my first T got quiet. That meant she was surprised I got it on my own!.I talked the problem to my answer. It was very esteem and confidence building...I had my own answers....who knew!!!

 

[Muted]

Okay, so my therapist has decided that I need to completely take over therapy sessions, and she is g...

You could ask her a whole bunch of questions...

 

[Esterio]

Okay, so my therapist has decided that I need to completely take over therapy sessions, and she is g...

Hi Leighlee87 Thanks for the post.
I'm just at the beginning of a second try at therapy getting ready EMDR and I feel like I can't stop talking my T can barely get a word in. I have no trouble coming up with what to say to use up 90 minutes like nothing. I guess I look forward to having to think about what I'm going to say. It's sounds like your therapy has gone good and your T is giving you back control.
Be Safe. Peace