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I think my therapist put it a better way to put it is, one is powerless as a child. When you think back to your childhood could you even choose what to eat, who to dress you, etc. As a child you’re usually your core self compassionate creative. A child is very me centered. They think everything resolves around then in the sense of if something bad happened it’s because they did something. However, we need to speak as adults and revise where the blame should actually be placed. Not on the victim but the abuser.@LeiaFlower, sexual arousal during abuse / trauma is a normal physiological response, it does not mean that you liked or wanted the abuse. It's the body's natural response to sexual stimulation, even when unwanted. It's important to understand this in order to work through guilt or confusion. Sex with friends does not lead to closer or better relationships, and is not a substitute for emotional intimacy or connection.
That is the common-sense reasoning to your negative core beliefs.
I know this wasn’t ill intent but text made it sound like what you said is an obvious thing, “Common Sense” What might be common to you might not be from someone else with a different background from you. I was raised that at young ages one can make life changing decisions. We aren’t meant to be given such power that young because we don’t know what to do with it. With that in mind and the idea that a child is me centered, it leads adult me to reason I had more control and power over a situation than I actually did.