This Ends Now
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Yes, really. :occasion:
Long story short is that Jo and I had done a bunch of personal growth during our separation. He was formally diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder and social anxiety disorder, is actively receiving treatment and has stabilized on Luvox. This allowed him to do things that I thought were impossible like reconnect with family, go to church, talk to friends, and talk to people as equals. We were both doing great things independently but still felt completely miserable.
He called me on Friday and said he was seeing family in Florida. I told him to just come back to Atlanta and marry me. Later that night I realized that I might be acting irrationally so I spoke to a peer support specialist about it. She asked what I thought would be different this time. I answered that he has accepted treatment for a neurological birth defect that could completely explain the dysfunctional and abusive behavior that had forced us apart. When I was in denial about my neurological injury and creative but extreme coping mechanisms I had been abusive myself but treatment and acceptance had changed me. I strongly believe the same had happened with Jo and I would not hold his birth defect against him just as he does not hold my injury against me... provided we both continued treatment that is. She said that I sounded completely rational and wished us well.
Saturday Jo and I ran to the mall and purchased the rings and dress and stuff.
Sunday we went to church together and spoke with my bishop about our plans. My bishop asked basically the same thing and gave the same answer. He also asked my motivation for getting married and doing it right now. I explained that I felt we had made an agreement in the pre-existance to find and help each other, we had already lived together for almost nine years, and I could not remain chaste much longer than a few more days. My bishop was happy to hear all that and wished us well.
Monday we got the license and got married in a local park next to a lake. Then we broke the news to friends and family.
Long story short is that Jo and I had done a bunch of personal growth during our separation. He was formally diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder and social anxiety disorder, is actively receiving treatment and has stabilized on Luvox. This allowed him to do things that I thought were impossible like reconnect with family, go to church, talk to friends, and talk to people as equals. We were both doing great things independently but still felt completely miserable.
He called me on Friday and said he was seeing family in Florida. I told him to just come back to Atlanta and marry me. Later that night I realized that I might be acting irrationally so I spoke to a peer support specialist about it. She asked what I thought would be different this time. I answered that he has accepted treatment for a neurological birth defect that could completely explain the dysfunctional and abusive behavior that had forced us apart. When I was in denial about my neurological injury and creative but extreme coping mechanisms I had been abusive myself but treatment and acceptance had changed me. I strongly believe the same had happened with Jo and I would not hold his birth defect against him just as he does not hold my injury against me... provided we both continued treatment that is. She said that I sounded completely rational and wished us well.
Saturday Jo and I ran to the mall and purchased the rings and dress and stuff.
Sunday we went to church together and spoke with my bishop about our plans. My bishop asked basically the same thing and gave the same answer. He also asked my motivation for getting married and doing it right now. I explained that I felt we had made an agreement in the pre-existance to find and help each other, we had already lived together for almost nine years, and I could not remain chaste much longer than a few more days. My bishop was happy to hear all that and wished us well.
Monday we got the license and got married in a local park next to a lake. Then we broke the news to friends and family.
