I Hate Being Touched Unexpectedly!

[Deleted member 31177]

Good for you!! Whatever it takes! I'm glad to hear it! :-)

 

[Cavegirl]

I do NOT like unwelcomed touches. When I was going through my darkest time (few months all day intensive outpatient) my counselor told me to tell my gf at the time she needed to ask permission to touch me. She just couldn't get it. She'd trigger me everyday. Then she went to reaching over and hovering a half inch over my hand "is this ok?" Well I was already triggered by then.

Just keep your paws off me!

 

[Chava]

I have a knack for making myself unapproachable and untouchable. No, I wouldn't like a random touch like this either. If it happened I'd jerk away. And that's okay.

That being said I had a kind grandparent once who seemed to need to touch you lightly on the arm to connect or say something to you. That I tolerated no problem, but it was my grandma and forever I knew it as how she communicated. But any random person wanting to feel my skin? F_#$ no.

 

[Panda Bear]

I cringe when people come at me! Always doing my best to make it look untouchable. I'm sorry you were touched, it often feels awful!

Everyone who knows me, knows I don't like being touched and they always ask first. People who don't, try and half heartedly let them, but usually keep a safe enough distance. I don't look touchable! Just because I'm a girl doesn't mean I like hugs. Sorta, sometimes okay with females?....no, not really ever.

Aside from my husband, who usually asks me, because he know touch is painful, I let one other man hug me w/o asking. But I did have to tell him he hurts me sometimes and he can't come from behind, it scares me.

Is touch painful for you guys? I don't like it and it's painful.

 

[Fadeaway]

@Panda Bear Yes, sometimes touch is very painful for me. I feel it too intensely. It depends on how stressed out I am, I think. Also if I go a while with out being touched I start craving it, but I can't handle the sensation when it happens. I find the more I am touched the more desensitized I am to it...sometimes. No wonder my poor husband is so confused.

 

[Gem5y]

Man it's a tricky one. Sometimes I just jump right out of my skin that's pretty clear. Sometimes I've been known to push them away. I work as a teacher with kids aged 11-16 and I am pretty clear it's not ok to touch but a few times I've jumped an d said don't touch me.
I think if I were you I would leave it but if it happens again a clear message that it is not ok needs to be sent.

 

[Deleted member 31177]

I do NOT like unwelcomed touches. When I was going through my darkest time (few months all day intensiv...

Man, I'm sorry, I truly thought I had responded to this when you wrote it back when! I'm so sorry to hear that your gf is playing these horrific, terrifying games with you, showing such a lack of respect for the terror it gives you and thinking it's funny. What she is doing, as you know, is NOT funny at all!! I totally get what you are going through from my own experiences with the same thing and being around, what I call "Crazy Makers." I know this message is so very late and I truly apologize!! I'm sick to my stomach that I didn't respond earlier as I thought I did.

I know, I KNOW you have the strength enough to look her straight in the eye and have a serious conversation about this issue and express how what she is doing is making your situation worse and would she please stop, STOP playing with your emotions and never do this again - something to that effect? I know you can do it. Please, please stand up for yourself with her. Or let her go if she continues triggering you! Your life is MUCH too precious to live in a world of constant triggers! I'll be here routing for you! I hope you're okay - it's been awhile since you wrote this and stupid me thought I had already written a reply to you, but I didn't, or didn't his "Post" or something. I'm so sorry. I really, really hope you're doing okay!

 

[renee5g]

I can not stand being touched by anyone except my kids and I have to see them coming at me.I was attacked and the fight reflex is high now, I don't trust myself. Even someone moving towards me in a fast way sends me into a panic and I freak out. I'm lucky to be alive after the attack but all the medical stuff has made me hate touch,it's painful.