I Have Started A Love Relationship

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It is hard because B is in a difficult situation with his father. He is very tired and low. He got two weeks off respite and he has a couple of hours respite a week, some cleaning and gardening. I try to give him as much emotional support as possible. That takes quite an amount of energy as well.

I really feel for his situation and it is hard to look after an elderly family member.

He has been looking after his father for almost five years now.

 

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I wish B could have a weekend off each month and come to stay with me. Of course, with things they way that they are at the moment, this is not possible. :(

 

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Well I had a lovely conversation on Skype with B last night. It was most heartening. :D

I had rung B in the last few days to stir him up a bit and I got him a good one and he had a bit of a giggle.

He sent me a few cheeky texts today. He is having pizza tonight. I am most tempted. (Yes he is a bad influence on me! hehehe)

 

[intothelight]

Ms. Spock,

I am so happy for you! :)

Deb

 

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Thanks Deb,

Oh it is rather nice Deb.

To be part of a good thing in my life - having a relationship.

Some of my issues are coming up but I am containing them and dealing with them.

I am also having a lovely time as well, which is good.

 

[amethist]

Good for you Ms Spock, long may it continue. :tup:

 

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Thanks amethist!

 

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Well I have been trying to be supportative of B and I may have pushed too hard for respite care, so I need to back off.

B is really over tired from being a full time carer and he is not thinking things through too clearly at the moment. So I just have to accept where he is at this time.

He is a lovely man in so many ways. He is in a difficult position. So I just have to accept things as they are now and see what happens.

It is difficult when we live so far apart.

But I have to be careful not to burn my self out supporting him.

 

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Okay well rescuing time is over. I worked in therapy today that I was rescuing B and that this was not helpful to me or him. So time to let it go. I can't fix the situation and even if I could fix the situation, it is not my place to remedy the situation.

B has been talking about getting a dog all year. Anyway I encouraged him to get a puppy as his dog died four or five years ago and they are dog people. So he got a puppy today and I rang him and he said now I was No 2 as he has a dog now. LMAO. He is a witty and funny man.

Looking after someone fulltime, who has dementia, is not easy. So I know how much he loved his other dogs over the years so I am hoping that their new puppy will bring them some joy and happiness. They enjoy their cat so much I am sure she will. Her name starts with B, too, so I will just call her the puppy. Hehehe.

 

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Isn't it grand when you let go and stop worrying and things work out? Of course in the place of my traumas, my family, things didn't get worked out, but in other areas of life they do get worked out.

Gosh it is nice when something lovely happens.

Well I have lost B, to his new puppy! LMAO! He is so delighted by her. He didn't even reply to my smses! ROLF! He was out walking her around the house. I am so happy for him. His Dad loves her as well. It is so lovely that he gets to have a puppy in his life at this time in his life. I am happy for him as well! They are tried and tested doggy people so the puppy has come to a good home. They will take good care of her.

Sad for me *tries not to giggle* being usurped by a puppy! LOL But good that a lovely event happens in their lives!

 

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I feel upset about my birthday and how B forgot what I said. I know he has memory problems from medicine from a malaria drug he once had, but it really hurts.

If we talk and he just forgets what we discuss, then what is the point?

 

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I feel very lonely.