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nay.elizabeth
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Thank you. It's nice to know my feelings are "typical" for this type of diagnosis, that I'm not the only one.
Losing my last job and starting this one and losing all my finances along with it because of severe debt has been HELL. I hope this job works out, even if it's just a couple years while I try and head back to school. (I'm fretting this job will allow flexibility).
I'll eventually have a sit down with my boyfriend. He knows a bit of where I'm at and what I deal with but not all of it. I may not share the entire ordeal because I don't see a real reason to. He knows I need communication and a routine, he knows of what to say and not to say and he's been working very hard on it, which is great. I am just still struggling with how to approach it and how to even bring it up. It's something I need to work on so I do it gently and rationally.
He told me an ex of his had severe depression and how she, in her own ways (from what I've heard, she wasn't a very good person overall in how she treated him), dumped it all on him. She refused help, was constantly needing just him for help, he felt burdened. He wasn't saying it in a way that he thought I'd be a burden but I guess how she handled it wasn't the right way. I am going to use that information regarding how I'll approach all of this. He already knows when I "disappear" for a day or two that I just need to collect myself and deal with it all so he's not getting backlash. There's a difference between telling someone they're needed for a hug, support, or just to be heard and dumping it all on them like a pile of laundry and saying they need to put it all away.
