I'm really glad I've found this forum.
Its helping me deal with my fiance who was in life threatening car accident, she was bed ridden for 2 months. We've been friend's for a long time and have become to a point of relationship, then engagement, now she's pregnant. I believe the pregnancy may have triggered her PTSD as now she is pushing me away a little.
I've sought professional counseling for myself and how to deal with her situation because I do love her and my child and do want the family that her and I have planned for.
She pushed and pushed to get married, so we got engaged after 2 months. Then she pushed and pushed to have a baby, which I was against the first 3 times she asked for it and on the 4th time I agreed. Once becoming pregnant she became distant, wanted to stay at her sisters. She became snappy towards me and everything I did or said. She didnt want to be around me nearly as much. She moved all her stuff into myself including her 9 year old sons stuff and since then has been staying with her sister ever since.
She has spent a couple nights over during this time period as her son calls me dad at times, tells me he loves me, and my kids love her. She's having a really hard time dealing with the pregnancy despite wanting it so badly, she picks on me constantly, rarely tells me she loves me, wont tell me she misses me, and just pushes me away.
Well, Im a very strong person, but she pushed me to my breaking point despite me taking every bit of care of her since becoming pregnant. I sought prefessional help for myself to remain the strong one and to also try and understand what she's going through.
The last two relationships she was in where horrific for her.. She was cheated on constantly. Then her car accident. She adored me, cooked for me, cleaned for me, told me she loved me constantly, missed me, made me become very close with her family in a very short period of time, which we have. But she hasnt been able to do any of that since becoming pregnant.
She doesnt go to any of her counseling, and is making no effort to do anything anymore. She isnt cleared to drive at this point so she has to walk everywhere, she cant bring her son to his activities or sports, its sad. But despite all of this, I love her for the person that I became friends with a long time ago and also as the person who I asked to marry me.
She refuses to discuss anything about feelings with me and has went totally backwards on me, so its hard at times to keep my strength.
My advice to anyone going through anything like this is to get yourself professional help to deal with it if you truly love someone enough to make it work. I'm learning what to and what not to say to her at times. Its been helpful and it also makes you feel a little better about yourself.
I would love any comments on this from anyone.
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Its helping me deal with my fiance who was in life threatening car accident, she was bed ridden for 2 months. We've been friend's for a long time and have become to a point of relationship, then engagement, now she's pregnant. I believe the pregnancy may have triggered her PTSD as now she is pushing me away a little.
I've sought professional counseling for myself and how to deal with her situation because I do love her and my child and do want the family that her and I have planned for.
She pushed and pushed to get married, so we got engaged after 2 months. Then she pushed and pushed to have a baby, which I was against the first 3 times she asked for it and on the 4th time I agreed. Once becoming pregnant she became distant, wanted to stay at her sisters. She became snappy towards me and everything I did or said. She didnt want to be around me nearly as much. She moved all her stuff into myself including her 9 year old sons stuff and since then has been staying with her sister ever since.
She has spent a couple nights over during this time period as her son calls me dad at times, tells me he loves me, and my kids love her. She's having a really hard time dealing with the pregnancy despite wanting it so badly, she picks on me constantly, rarely tells me she loves me, wont tell me she misses me, and just pushes me away.
Well, Im a very strong person, but she pushed me to my breaking point despite me taking every bit of care of her since becoming pregnant. I sought prefessional help for myself to remain the strong one and to also try and understand what she's going through.
The last two relationships she was in where horrific for her.. She was cheated on constantly. Then her car accident. She adored me, cooked for me, cleaned for me, told me she loved me constantly, missed me, made me become very close with her family in a very short period of time, which we have. But she hasnt been able to do any of that since becoming pregnant.
She doesnt go to any of her counseling, and is making no effort to do anything anymore. She isnt cleared to drive at this point so she has to walk everywhere, she cant bring her son to his activities or sports, its sad. But despite all of this, I love her for the person that I became friends with a long time ago and also as the person who I asked to marry me.
She refuses to discuss anything about feelings with me and has went totally backwards on me, so its hard at times to keep my strength.
My advice to anyone going through anything like this is to get yourself professional help to deal with it if you truly love someone enough to make it work. I'm learning what to and what not to say to her at times. Its been helpful and it also makes you feel a little better about yourself.
I would love any comments on this from anyone.
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