Mine does too! I think she means it's reducing our assessment of the whole of a relationship down to that particular transaction rather than taking in everything as a whole. If that makes sense? I do it all the time, hold one thing as everything and forget all the other stuff to prove my projection or negative voice etc. Part of hyper viligence? Or insecure attachment?My T practices Transactional Analysis so I thought all relationships were full of transactions?
It's not dishonest though? It's a fact that the thought is there,for whatever reason for however long or short.It’s a nice thought but I don’t see how it could be neutral.
You can be both and be authentic. You're not being dishonest and it isn't being untrustworthy. It's having different feelings and thoughts at the same time. Which can be draining and crazy making and feel horrible - but why inauthentic? All authentic parts of you.As I reflect upon your wish for me I realize that I already experience peace and self acceptance nearly every day at some point. AND I also hear the SI thoughts.
When I reflect upon this split it leads me to my original question—how can I have both and still be authentic?
It's the ultimate abandonment: us abandoning ourselves. That's how I see it for me anyway. Obviously ignore this if it isn't helpful.Could that trigger the SI, in order to give myself a reason to feel disconnected?