J
Juner
My husband was an army soldier and did a tour in 2002 in Afghanistan. I didn't know him then, we've only been married for about eight months.
The man I married warned me that he was broken, but I didn't care. The man I married was kind and responsible, honest and forthright. He kept nothing from me. Our marriage was hard due to financial stresses and an inability in him to keep a job, but we were happy.
Cut to two months ago. Late one night he left in a rage, he put his hands on me which he had never done before. His face looked different. Everything about him was different. He went across state to live with his dad, but I didn't know that until about a month ago, for four weeks I had no idea where he was. He would contact me speaking in code. Was always elusive about where he was.
He came back after a time, and then left again after a day. He told me he met another woman, ten years older than him. He swore they hadn't been sleeping together, but the motel charges on our joint account say otherwise.
He calls sometimes begging to come back. And leaves two days later saying we can't work it out. He ignores me for a day, a week, goes missing, then calls crying.
I have no choice I feel but to get a divorce. I value my marriage so much but I see no other options. Every time she calls he runs to her.
I've mentioned all of this to him. His childhood trauma, combat PTSD, his hallucinations (ten foot spiders crawling across the road) and paranoia (the government is tracking him and making threats). He took it seriously and asked me to help him. But before I could, he left again.
Am I a bad person for divorcing him? I can't take the cheating, the stealing, the lies and drug use. I can't wait for him to find himself anymore. I married an amazing, smiling, happy man, and I'm divorcing a monster. I can't take it another day.
The man I married warned me that he was broken, but I didn't care. The man I married was kind and responsible, honest and forthright. He kept nothing from me. Our marriage was hard due to financial stresses and an inability in him to keep a job, but we were happy.
Cut to two months ago. Late one night he left in a rage, he put his hands on me which he had never done before. His face looked different. Everything about him was different. He went across state to live with his dad, but I didn't know that until about a month ago, for four weeks I had no idea where he was. He would contact me speaking in code. Was always elusive about where he was.
He came back after a time, and then left again after a day. He told me he met another woman, ten years older than him. He swore they hadn't been sleeping together, but the motel charges on our joint account say otherwise.
He calls sometimes begging to come back. And leaves two days later saying we can't work it out. He ignores me for a day, a week, goes missing, then calls crying.
I have no choice I feel but to get a divorce. I value my marriage so much but I see no other options. Every time she calls he runs to her.
I've mentioned all of this to him. His childhood trauma, combat PTSD, his hallucinations (ten foot spiders crawling across the road) and paranoia (the government is tracking him and making threats). He took it seriously and asked me to help him. But before I could, he left again.
Am I a bad person for divorcing him? I can't take the cheating, the stealing, the lies and drug use. I can't wait for him to find himself anymore. I married an amazing, smiling, happy man, and I'm divorcing a monster. I can't take it another day.
