Is pinching preteens nipples considered sexual abuse

[Wuleb]

The context is child experiencing unwanted touching from adult. Sexual assault period.

Unwanted touch by an adult isn't enough to affirm sexual assault.

The context the OP provided, however, is.

 

[Ojo]

It absolutely is. This is what one of my abusers did when I no longer allowed him access to me in more private spaces. I was about the same age. He would pinch my nipples as he walked by me in front of other people. My T confirmed this is sexual abuse. Whoever is telling you it isn't has no business denying your experience. I'm sorry that happened to you.

 

[Odozut]

He was an adult. I hated it. He would do it in front of people and saw it as a game. I got yelled at again last night fo...

Yes its abuse!!!

 

[Mezi]

Is it still going on? I thought I saw you may not be having contact with him/it may not be happening anymore. If it is, you can call your state's (if you're in the US) Child Protective Service (or your state's equivalent) toll free number and make an anonymous report. Some states even allow you to do them online. The key part of your situation is that you were uncomfortable and that you told him no, plus the fact that you are not legally allowed to consent. Child Protective Services may not have enough to validate the guy for sexual abuse on their own, but a police report can be generated and law enforcement deals with different burdens of proof so they have more options on how to pursue charges on the guy than CPS. You mentioned his girlfriends leaving the kids alone with the guy. Do you have valid concern that there is sexual abuse (or other abuse/neglect)? If you are truly worried about these children, you can call in a report (can be anonymous) on him with concern for those kids. Even if the report is just something like: "I am underage and he has pinched my nipples multiple times above my clothes, despite my asking him to stop and telling him I was uncomfortable. This happened more than once, in front of other people, and while we were alone. Other children are frequently in his care with no other adult supervision. These children are not biologically related to him (girlfriend's kids)."

 

[Lanon]

I apologize, I thought by mentioning the statute of limitation being long past clarified that it happened a long time ago. The witness just won't let it go.

 

[Mezi]

Ah, sorry. I must have read to fast. Could still be something if there's concern for other children around the guy though.

 

[Iri]

What is the witness still doing?

 

[Ota]

If you're a preteen and the person pinching your nipples is an adult, then yes, that is sexual assault. Scream it loud, phone the police, don't be bullied into anything other than it stopping immediately.

 

[Lanon]

To clarify again, I am an adult now. It happened 15 or so years ago. I do not know if other children are around so the police won't do anything.
The witness calls me to tell me I am alone and no one cares about me because I screwed myself over by saying what he did. The will call and say "Burn any more bridges lately you little snot?" or "I was calling to see if you were dead yet, I am disappointed to hear no one has gotten sick of enough of your lies about <inset abusers name here> to kill you yet."

This is also followed by or precedes, "Remember when you were 4 and you almost flunked preschool because you couldn't use scissors? You still have that problem right?" or "Remember in 5th grade when all the kids hated you so much they would always bully you because you followed them around like a sick puppy? I am still embarrassed by you over that, do you realize I still have to run into these peoples parents."

 

[Ovoc]

Block block block!!!!!

Don't put up with verbal abuse!

Is there a reason you're still talking to the witness?

 

[Ota]

The witness calls me to tell me I am alone and no one cares about me because I screwed myself over by saying what he did.

f*ck the witness, f*ck them all <insert abusers>, don't talk to them, don't engage with them period across any medium. Like above, block them from your life and move forwards. Allowing abusers within your circle of friends, family or other, all it does is keep you in an increased state of symptomatic reactions. Its unhealthy and unproductive to live like that. If you answer a call from some abuser, hang up immediately and block the number. They will run out of numbers to call you from, and you can call the police with the harassment then.

 

[Ewap]

yes it's abuse. I am so sorry. truly. what a sick man. I hope he got what he deserved.