General My Husband Asked Me To Share This...

[Eleanor]

I had to recognize that he has guilt and shame and not attempt to coddle him. Much like you said, if they are feeling guilty about something they did that is their guilt to work through, not our guilt to try and sweep under the rug. Does that make sense?

Perfect sense. Much more than what I wrote:tup: That's what I meant to say. Yeah.:whistling:

I find that I may not have gotten what I wanted that way either. I mean, I hate what he has been through and the pain he feels and has caused, but wishing it away may end up with a result far from what I would find desirable. Like..not having him in my life at all. That would suck. Most days....;)

I hear you. Rewriting history is such a chancy business. Really, it is the exercise that leads me to some kind of faith at the end of the day.... When I get to the place where I no longer know WHAT to wish for - except healing and virtue....

 

[Tinyflame]

PW, Eleanor you are so cute.
I had just meant maybe that's why the 'mind' keeps going back to it (ptsd), in terms of intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, FB's, nightmares, etc.
But that's true, different decisions, a different life, there would be likely everything so different.

PW, it's ok to feel bitter or frustrated or angry, of course.
((((Hugs))))