My Husband Doesn't Care That I'm Suffering

[Lucky Laser]

I've been with my husband for 5 years and it has been a slow process for us to understand each others' needs. It can't happen over night, especially if you start with someone who doesn't know anything about PTSD, or like my first counselor, thinks it only applies to war veterans. I wouldn't cut him loose over this, though I'm sure his reaction made you very angry. In my experience bad initial reactions tend to subside and eventually turn into some kind of attempt to understand. Worry about yourself, like you said, and allow time and patience to heal the hurt feelings between you and your husband.

 

[ISupportHer]

Jadebear,

Just a few comments from a husband. I have come back to your initial post in this thread many times. There are possibly many reasons for your husband's behavior but in my opinion no excuse. Two very different things in my book. I really do feel you are right in focusing on YOU. Focusing on what YOU can impact. On the other hand, it is not unreasonable at all to expect some empathy from him. Maybe he is scared or just doesn't understand.

There ARE books for partners of PTSD Survivors. I have mentioned several in other threads. Perhaps you could get one for him. They can be hard to read. Emotionally. But perhaps he can start with just one chapter. Perhaps pick out a chapter that is an area you really need his understanding and just start with that one small step. Just thinking out loud here.

Hope it gets better for you!

Hope a hug is OK! :Hug_emoticon:



ISH

 

[Jade-]

Thanks again for all the replies.

I've decided to not push the matter with my husband anymore. If he ever decides he's interested in what's going on with me,I will gladly fill him in or buy him a book.

He's not top priority right now and I'm to the point where I don't really care anymore.