she's doing this, with severe physical disabilities on top of PTSD and a new job that she is trying to learn.
Oh, that's another level of issues. No sleep + mediciations = falling asleep at work dispite 5 hr energies that I am getting out of the vending machine. And all of it on my mind seems to crowd out any intake of information. I can't seem to set it aside in my mind and so my abilty to intake info seems to have been affected. I hear the class getting it and I am like "wait, what?". Thats a big issue since we are now into systems which is what I REALLY need to learn.
Pain has also increased. Added to needing to keep Chopper (my service dog in training, for those that don't know) out in the world meaning I need to load him, drive, unload him, walk a shitload after working all day, then load back up, drive back, and unload again.
That's already a lot for someone in pain. Increased pain and it seems impossible. But still a must.
I took him to Walmart before he was ready for Walmart simply because I had to go to take my step mom to walmart.
There are so many layers to this that I need support for and I don't want the thread to be hyper focused on something I am not comfortable doing at the moment. Which can change any day but right now, I am not comfortable with evicting her when she has only had a few days and her kids are searching hard for a rehab and calling every day, several times a day. I want to give them a chance to get her into a rehab.
I'm not sure what their definition of "household" is. I can kind of, maybe, see your father and his wife being considered part of your 'household'. I have a bit more trouble seeing her, under the current circumstances, considered that way.
Household income is the entire income of the household she currently lives in. If she moved to another house then its that household total income for everyone in that house. That is how medicaid works in Florida. I tried for it in Leesburg when I was out of a job and they would not continue on the site until I entered in checking acct numbers for everyone in the home. That is how they measure their income, though I was out of a job. And I had no lease there as my dad owned that house in Leesburg. Now forclosed on but just saying, that has nothing to do with a lease.
What's to keep anyone with an annoying Grandma from dropping her off on a stranger's porch and expecting them to care for her?
The law. My step mom already lived here. There maybe some rights she has due to a husband abandonment. I am trying to figure that out now.
Where's she at with all this? It's a little hard to imagine her WANTING to stay with you. I can imagine her being overwhelmed and feeling like she has no choice. (So, you guys finally have something in common.) Is she at all considering doing any problem solving of her own?
She is willing to go to a rehab. She is worried about State paid ones being worse then the ghetto as there are some dumps so she wants to visit them and I told her I would take her on the weekend to visit any but her son is looking and I am asking. Here in a bit when she gets up im going to ask if she spoke to him as he called last night but she didnt want to call him back. I am ever asking what he is doing but i am about to look for rehabs. But, going back to her, she is willing to go to a rehab and also willing to move. Her son told her she will never be homeless for as long as he is living and I made a comment that ahe wont be homeless and she said "if I stay with you I will" and I said nothing back as she was referencing being evicted. I am not going to correct her on that.
She is at a very low place and she needs therapy so I am trying to be as supportive as I can be as I don't want to end up with a step mon that comitted suicide.
I hope that answered your question. She just needs more then a few days.
But it also can give other people a dangerous amount of control over your affairs.
Yes it can. They have it and they are now using it. They've had full POA for a year apparently so they are now using it due to worry about him...i think. They had me deposit the rent check a day early so that they (brother & sisiter in law) knew where the money stood. They were talking about closing his chking acct and opening a new one but so far they havent but sister in law texted me last night to say "he closed down online banking and got 2 new debit cards" (even though he only had one debit card and its with him) so, so far, it still seems to be about keeping my step mom out of his money. When the addiction was real bad in Leesburg she forged his name on a check for $200 so thats why they had me grab his checkbook and box of checks. So i have them and because of that they may not close his entire account but yes, they have very scary control over someone that is still fully of sound mind.
They both are communicating with me and letting me talk to my dad when I want to though so thats good. One of my sisters said she didnt think this was right so then they cut off contact with her. Thus why I am trying to stay neurtral. I know he doesnt know they did that to my sister as he wouldnt allow it. But since i have to call one of their phones to get ahold of my dad, whom doesn't own a cell phone, I am staying neutral. Making each think i am on their side when I am not. Im doing the same thing with my step mom so that I can peacefully move her out because if she really wanted to she could refuse to move then i would be forced to evict and I am trying to avoid that. If i can keep it all peaceful then i can scoot her out without an eviction. It seems that is what I am doing, at the moment anyway.
