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Nepotism In The Workplace...feeling Like I Don't Belong
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I agree, that happens a lot. I swear, people that try to please others in the workplace are generally very weak minded people who need constant attention, who need constant approval, who seem to take a personal interest in others at work. It is just very disturbing to watch people like that. I know of several employees that do that and it sickens me, it is worse then watching a dog beg.....
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I am quite independent and confident in my skills, which just frustrates me more when I am passed over for some of the positions because I won't kiss up to the boss. It is doubly hard with the one lady who is best friends with the boss's family because she can be quite mean and whines about everything.
I stand up for what I believe in. Since I am one of the teachers with more experience, my pay is higher, and I worry they will choose to hire another close friend and replace me to save the school money.
I stand up for what I believe in. Since I am one of the teachers with more experience, my pay is higher, and I worry they will choose to hire another close friend and replace me to save the school money.
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This may be a good person to connect with.
Do you know if the employee protection laws in your state protect you from being fired because you are more experienced/paid a higher salary?
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They do not. It is a right to hire right to fire state which does not require any reason then to fire. I think regular public school district may have given me some seniority rights, but not the public charter. Last year they cut our pay 5 percent in middle of school year...not sure how that was legal either.
It's one of those states, there are quite a few of those, (at will). My soon to be ex lost his job in such a state. Attorneys are less likely to help without a strong case. The attorney still worked out a bit of severance pay for him via letter.He had only worked for under a year.
Similar situation where I am and I stuck it out almost 30 years now.
One man got in good with the boss early and brought in friends and wives and sisters and all their kids and their friends and on and on. Without really knowing how it is all connected and probably missing as many as I know about the count approached fifty people at one time. Then there was a memo handed down stating that nepotism or any form of family pressure exerted in an interest of bettering a family members career would not be tolerated and they have mostly retired or moved on since. The problem is, there is no way to know what goes on behind closed doors and there are forces outside the company still at work pulling strings and influencing decisions, and all at no risk because they don't work there anymore. So enemies made 20 years ago may influence decisions of co-workers hired a few years ago.
I have learned to trust no one and it is a sad existence, in a terminate at will state. If someone wants me gone because I flipped off their second cousin in traffic, they just put some pressure on the person they promoted for no real reason other than they were friends in grade school and they talk to my boss and I am gone the next time I forget to turn off the lights at the end of my shift, or less.
Get used to it or get the hell out, or learn to wait and watch and take joy in the special kind of embarrassment that only falls on people that hire their sisters kid on great recommendation only to have them get fired for stealing copier paper in a month. It's not nice, but I enjoy it every time it happens and when family hiring gets to be commonplace it happens a lot. A bunch.
The worst part is that this is a great company with good benefits and a steady future. I like the owners and they like me, it's just all of the human flotsom in between that I have to deal with that makes it a rough life to live. Head down, mouth shut, job in process, paycheck in hand. Smile on face!
One man got in good with the boss early and brought in friends and wives and sisters and all their kids and their friends and on and on. Without really knowing how it is all connected and probably missing as many as I know about the count approached fifty people at one time. Then there was a memo handed down stating that nepotism or any form of family pressure exerted in an interest of bettering a family members career would not be tolerated and they have mostly retired or moved on since. The problem is, there is no way to know what goes on behind closed doors and there are forces outside the company still at work pulling strings and influencing decisions, and all at no risk because they don't work there anymore. So enemies made 20 years ago may influence decisions of co-workers hired a few years ago.
I have learned to trust no one and it is a sad existence, in a terminate at will state. If someone wants me gone because I flipped off their second cousin in traffic, they just put some pressure on the person they promoted for no real reason other than they were friends in grade school and they talk to my boss and I am gone the next time I forget to turn off the lights at the end of my shift, or less.
Get used to it or get the hell out, or learn to wait and watch and take joy in the special kind of embarrassment that only falls on people that hire their sisters kid on great recommendation only to have them get fired for stealing copier paper in a month. It's not nice, but I enjoy it every time it happens and when family hiring gets to be commonplace it happens a lot. A bunch.
The worst part is that this is a great company with good benefits and a steady future. I like the owners and they like me, it's just all of the human flotsom in between that I have to deal with that makes it a rough life to live. Head down, mouth shut, job in process, paycheck in hand. Smile on face!
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Agree 100% percent. Trust no one, be thankful you have a job and think twice about flipping the second cousin the bird in traffic.
Thanks for making smile.
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The staff fridge was so smelly this morning. My assistant said maybe we should post a sign saying, "Your mom doesn't work here... clean up after yourself." I looked at her and told her to think about it for a minute. The three leaving the messes in the fridge have their mothers working there.
thats a classic. You have to be able to draw a little pleasure from that situation, as long as you don't have to share the fridge. My Ice pack keeps my lettuce crisp in my lunch box until lunch, and then when I get home it goes back in the freezer until I get up tomorrow morning and make lunch again. My mom doesn't work there either.
Just one of a thousand ways to watch and chuckle at the hopelessly non self-reliant running their gift employment into the ground while those of us that had to work our way in and work to stay in just plug along with our healthy lunches in our clean and fresh smelling lunch boxes. And smiles on our faces.
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