New To Therapy...when To Share Trauma

[NightSky]

I don't think you need to keep the emotions "in check." I think you should feel what you feel. You deserve that much. And the therapy space is for that purpose. Keep us posted! You're doing a really good thing for yourself. Words can be hard to say but you're taking incremental steps to freedom.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I just started therapy about a month ago and I really like the person I am seeing. I started seeing him...

I love answering to posts such as yours because you are taking the emotions of the perpetrator and place them onto yourself which is exactly what will make a sick perpetrator smile all day long. Not only was he able to violate you but he has also managed to make you feel responsible for it. It is actually the perpetrator that has the huge fear of not being enough for someone else, it is him who is insecure, dangerously afraid to be rejected by a female and angered to oblivion when it does happen. That is why he forces himself onto you in the first place. He has high insecurities and fears to be rejected.

Those are not your fears, they are his fears and he is punishing you not only by raping you, but also by placing this huge mental burden onto you, the victim.
Once you learn this lesson you will recognize what a weakling a guy like this really is, ( and how strong you really are). God I love posts like this, hihi

 

[Lola345]

I love answering to posts such as yours because you are taking the emotions of the perpetrator a...

Well...that was a little harsh. Thanks for the lesson. I was going to post about how things went today, but I think I'll hold off for now. Thanks again to everyone for the advice.

 

[joeylittle]

I was going to post about how things went today, but I think I'll hold off for now.

I hope you do post about it, eventually, and that it was Ok.

We don't always get feedback that feels comfortable - and sometimes it can even seem to be unhelpful. That's sort of the great thing about this community being as big as it is. I've been surprised so many times by seeing which words 'land' for some, not for others...a good rule of thumb is to take what's useful to you, and leave the rest.

Looking forward to hearing how it went, if you choose to share :)

 

[Sideways]

Listening if you feel like sharing:)