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Relationship Not Something You Normally Hear About...

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I tried to think maybe there was a different forum for this but there isn't so here we go.

You most commonly and very often hear about emotional flatness or "numbness" when referring to some of a sufferers side effects but I am dealing with something of almost the complete opposite and looking for maybe some view points from sufferers and supporters.

My boyfriend and I are very much in love and very happy. That aside... When he expresses his feelings to me and for me it is at random and when expected as well. When he does express himself to me (sometimes verbally, sometimes in a letter or text) it comes with extreme passion and wonderful words. It sounds and feels very real. He claims a letter is a great tangable item for when he is not there or feeling distant. When he does this it means a lot to me and I believe in it very much.

What I am asking here is he goes through that numbness and no emotion times. So, when he does express himself to me and later reminds me that he still feels that way... Does he know exactly what hes feeling or is it just extreme emotion taking hold?

I am not asking if anyone knows whether or not what he says is truely how he feels because no one here knows him. What I'm asking is, does this commonly occur because all I hear about is the lack thereof when it comes to emotions such as this? Is it really hard for sufferers to identify those feelings in most cases?
 
I think what is important to realise is that there is PTSD and then there is peoples personalities. Add to that the circumstances that caused the PTSD.

Not everyone is going to be numb all the time. And different people have different ways of expressing themselves. Some people are naturally more demonstrative than others. And some people with PTSD have what can most easily be described as triggers linked to relationship dynamics and some don't.

Developing PTSD makes people prone to certain symptoms but it doesn't wipe them into a clean slate of PTSD.

Some people who have grown up with abuse don't understand their feelings as they were never helped by the correct parenting to do so. I didn't in the past. That is different to being emotionally numb which to me feels more like a type of dissociation or disconnection of part of my functioning. Being emotionally numb to me is different to not understanding what one feels.
 
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