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Open Challenge, The Happiness Advantage Starting April 1st

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@Anni, I completely relate about the college issue. Wow, this is not bragging at all. This is proud, elated; goosebumps stuff.

You have honestly given your children a solid foundation for building their dreams. This is not something they learned in school. Rarely do one out of four children follow through to graduation!

Genetic's and early childhood development are everything! You and ex-hubby should be grinning ear to ear. Please do not allow anyone of the outsiders in your family to cheat you of your rewards!

I have one at UCLA 4. Student. Yes he has done all the work. Economics major/ Math minor. I am so proud of his accomplishments there are times I feel like I am going to pop! This is not bragging, just proud. :hug: Whitney
 
Day 5:

1. I am grateful that my husband brought me a hot lunch yesterday.

I am grateful that the front yard is trimmed and pruned and a new bed of gardenias and iris has been planted.

I am grateful that this week my schedule is mostly two hour (better paying) shifts.

2. A positive experience I had in the last 24 hours: A nice visit by phone with a forum friend between shifts.

3. Exercise: blank til I update

4. Meditation: blank til I update

5. Random act of kindness: After clocking out I stayed to talk quietly with the son of my client who was hurt by something his father said. I listened and gave feedback based on my own experience with caregiving for "the moms". He told me thank you and seemed to sincerely mean it.
 
Hmm. Taking a break between shifts and looking hard at Item 3 and 4. My break was a conference in my agency office about a client and I only have an hour or so to do them because I will feel like crap when I get home. Ggggrrrrrr. :unsure:
 
Re: EXERCISE... does exercising one's jaw count? As in eating and talking for a long time?? ;) (Just kidding).

I did everything today as usual, but it was kind of routine. That is good, actually, because if it becomes routine and kind of like a habit to do all these things, then I would probably just continue doing them in general.
 
Doh! Forgot to change the day on my last post to read Day 8 (instead of day 5, I have just been copying one and typing over it each day). :O_o:

Any how, Exercise was pushing my client out doors to view his neighborhood in bloom and his son's garden. Four wheeling with a wheelchair is not for the faint of heart. Meditation yesterday I caved. I needed too much presence of mind to attend to my jobs, scheduling conflicts, the pools, and an hour long (unpaid) meeting with my agency nurse and scheduler. I complicated my life by rescuing a stray and by the time I got home was reactive, with some yelling and swearing. I had to put myself in time out. But here I am again... resolved to push through the commitment, imperfectly to see what I can see after the 21 days.

Day 9:

1. I am grateful that it was a beautiful spring day.

I am grateful that my mother's ovarian cancer screen came back normal.

I am grateful that I seem to be managing the two part time jobs now, but the longer shifts are practical lethal.

2. A positive experience I had in the last 24 hours:

3. Exercise: blank til I update

4. Meditation: blank til I update

5. Random act of kindness: I rescued a battered stray tom cat who'd been roaming the neighborhood and got torn up desperately trying to fight for food (and losing pretty consistently by the looks of him). A neighborhood teen had been quite worried for him and came forward after I borrowed a cat carrier to take him to my home in. She had been quite upset and worried for him, but was unable to do anything. So if nothing else, I set her mind at ease some. Though it filled my stress cup and I was reactive yesterday evening. Too much stress. I was alternatively tearful and my voice was choking in my throat, and swearing like a woman possessed. I went back into my "I hate people" mode for about 2 hours last night. Shorter, less conviction... underneath it was really sadness and trepidation.
 
This was beneficial, thank you to every poster. Being here at all is an excercize in mindfulness for me. I think I generally have a shot at being 'busy', hence not able to participate in something interactive like this. I AM terribly busy, but so many, many things in my life will just not change unless and until I change this particular aspect of myself. Ha!, to Green Forg, so funny, how people view themselves, when to outside perspectives you'd be someone to emulate, since I genuinely DO lack that resolve. I don't particularly care what other's think of me, wierd, just would like to BE more like some folks I see here. Well, this challenge is very helpful. I think it might bring people onto the same playing field in some way, if that makes any sense.

Thanks Alba, and please do let me know when I'm not clear on some of these points. I'm SURE this program was written the way it was for a reason, you know? Brains a few light years further on in evolution than mine figured out what-works-when-and-how, so probably best to try to stick to it as closely as possible?

Grateful I'm getting a better idea on why my children might have somewhat of a grip on life, perhaps having to do with my take on their place in the world. It matters and has always bugged me. I'm not there yet, SO much appreciate the input which, if it doesn't give me food for thought, has given me a chicken leg to chew on.

Grateful for the gift of imagination/creativity, stuff which seems to come out of thin air, but I'm aware it does not. I'd like to know to what purpose, where it all requires to be used, but have yet to really get a good answer to that prayer.

SO grateful I got to know my parents as well as I did before Dad died. It should have been awful, abysmal situation but I had a blast. It was plain, old fun, mostly, and never would have happened if my sister had done what she did to them. Light out of darkness.

Act of kindness, and yes, that's a REALLY good point, Green Frog, how much easier to say anything at all here. I'll claim something else I do a lot, which is to take all our stale food and old fruit, etc., out into the woods to leave for the squirrels, birds, racoons and any other beastie who would like a meal. I took a big bowl out yesterday, I see this morning it's mostly gone.

Did the 3 miles yesterday, am finding it easier than before this started to just be STILL, listen to the woods sounds, the creek running, my footsteps, commune with all of it for awhile before doing my usual prayers for the day.

I actually do not quite have the time to journal about a postive experience, although I'll say what it was. I took my son to soccer practice, which is at an old church, in a field. They have a graveyard there, where I'll look for photos to post on Find A Grave ( that will be tomorrow's act of kindness, posting for someone who asked for a pic. ). I came across a grave, a Civil War soldier who died Sept. 30. 1862. That's the First Battle of Newtonia, by the way. Anyway, this Daniel Webster who was killed that day was not only from the same regiment as my grgrgrandfather,( 50th PA Vol. ) who of course must have been there that day, but also in HIS company, only 100 men out of the entire Civil War and I'm looking at his grave. He must have known him, is the thing, so awfully wierd and it was a posititive experience in the extreme. I really wish had time to blah blah blah about it because WHEW, it would get long! :)
 
OK, I am complete on Day 9 now. AND I did a load of laundry too, because my friend didn't show up and I had some extra time on my hands, and disappointment to deal with besides. I'd SOOOoooo... looked forward to seeing her!

My # 2 for today is that I love bus rides. I enjoy the scenery, living way out here in the mountains, almost anywhere you go the scenery is breathtaking!

The bus drivers are always friendly. They get you there on time or even early. (Magazine reading is an extra bonus, while waiting for an appointment, as I don't have many subscriptions). One of the drivers played a joke on me yesterday (or he thought he did) as he has THE BALD LOOK now. He thought I did not recognize him, but the minute he opened his mouth to speak, I knew his voice and thus him. We talked about what it is like to be widowed, having no place to find a new mate that is decent except the library or church maybe. Around here though, folks our ages are rare to find single, and often if they are, they are bitter about a divorce or something.

He was lucky to have found a woman on Facebook that he knew from way back. They are doing the long distance relationship thing now. And it seems to be going well. They plan to meet soon.

Anyway, it sure is nice to get home again too, and the drivers are always safe ones, so I never feel like a nervous passenger.
 
Okay so here it is an hour before my next shift, a flurry of calls (again from agency). I talked myself into a reduced wage to care for an out of town client and am feeling like a big class "A" sucker, but really... it is in my client's best interest to have a cadre of qualified people... so harder work for not very much dough and I signed up, actually committing to a schedule I don't even personally like. Whaa, whaa, wahh... cry me a river, I am the queen of busting my ass for next to nothing. I excel at it, but like to think I'm serving the "greater good".

Meditation: Back to the bath tube for me with ear plugs and setting the timer for 10 minutes.

Exercise 30 minutes tread mill.

It is really sucking to be me. Frankly people ask me all the time why I do this to myself... I have no answer. Except perhaps I still may be externally validating ... running short of self validation.
 
1. Write down three new things you are grateful for each day.
2. Journal about a positive experience experience in the last 24 hours.
3. Exercise
4. Meditation
5. A random act of kindness.

I am grateful that I don't have breast or ovarian cancer.
I am grateful that I managed to rewrite an important part of my job application.
I am grateful that I could really talk to my psychriatrist.

I went out last night and was with people and did some drawing. I was included and it felt nice though I wil overwhelmed a little at the time.

I went boogie boarding and belly dancing today for exercise.

I meditated and two parts of me were talking today but I fell asleep.

I helped out someone who hadn't got a drink of water today.
 
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